“We would love to have you man but unfortunately our Spring Break house is already full.”
It would have been easy to feel bad for myself, blame myself, and sit at home having a miserable spring break complaining. Instead, I embraced the rejection by booking a solo trip to Guatemala, climbed up a 14,000 foot mountain, created epic experiences and lifelong friendships with people around the world, and started my journey to Failing Freely By Embracing The Power To Be Alone
By starting my journey of Failing Freely, I embraced getting out of my comfort zone by spending getting closer to finding myself and being who I truly wanted to be.
It’s a privilege to be rejected because it gives you the FREEDOM TO BE YOU rather than embracing the toxic comfort of security that starves growth.
Today I drew a Be Yourself Vase with Negative Spaces In Order To Emphasize the Power Of Being Alone In Order To Become The Best Possible Version Of Yourself. You need to spend time with yourself in order to move forward on your journey.
In the vase, steps 2 and 3 are critical parts of any relationship that involves rejection and saying no. The reality is that this has nothing to do with anything you did. But our minds are trained to immediately doubt, complain, hate, spread negativity and FAIL Down. There are always positive ways to respond and by FAILING UP and spending time with yourself, YOU will awaken by stepping forward to become your authentic self. Understand that if you are being the best possible version of your authentic self, everything that flows down your vase is meant to be and out of your control. The only thing you can do is continue to embrace being yourself and improving, growing, and enjoying this beautiful world every day. I used to be accepted into the 2 and 3 stages, and it completely blinded my freedom, growth, and perspective.
I could never say no because I didn’t want to harm someone on the receiving end of a no. I could never say no because I wouldn’t have known what to do with myself if I didn’t have a constant stream of plans with different people running around each day. I thrived and enjoyed it. I couldn’t stand alone for a second by myself without complaining or getting bored.
The truth is that my growth was limited by the fact that I couldn’t spend time with myself. I was so unconscious and numb because I didn’t embrace being alone. I was drifting further away from finding myself in addition to not being the best version of being me.
A year later, I can safely say that acceptance and rejection of your vase do not determine your fate. Rather, Failing Freely does. Going out and taking action by yourself in environments that have the potential to reject you, going out and getting uncomfortable in environments where you have been accepted, and putting skin in the game to give your chance to fail is the only way to truly live life to the fullest every day with the freedom and fulfillment it deserves.
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