Today we dive into the toxic mindset of thinking that something in the future will drive your happiness.
At all costs, you need to avoid the train of thought that “in the future I will be happy” or else it becomes an automatic mindset that will starve you of freedom and fulfillment. When “Blank happens, Than I will happy and fulfilled” is a complete NO NO unless you want to feel like something is constantly missing.
I learned that principle in South Beach. I signed up for a free coaching session with Tony Robbins and was sitting on the beach listening to one of his senior advisors advice for my current situation. He flat out told me that I wasn’t a potential client of his because I didn’t have a why. And if I didn’t have a why, how was I going to achieve my goals. And if my goals at the time was to make a ton of money so that I can live on a private island on the beach everyday drinking Belgian beers and playing golf, I would still never be happy if I reached that goal because there would be super unfulfilled and life would be meaningless. The reasoning behind that is because I was constantly achieving to be happy, rather than happily achieving. I wasn’t enjoying the journey and was stressing to accomplish a goal in the future I didn’t even know why I wanted.
And ever since, I started happily achieving. Embracing the journey. Finding my why. Cherishing the moment rather than the future result. The more time you spend investing in the present being mentally and physically healthy, the more freedom you will have in the future.
Don’t get me wrong, living in the present may mean making sacrifices, working 14 hours to meet a book deadline, working hard to get a good grade on a test, or spending valuable time helping someone else achieve their dream. But when you make decisions that invest in yourself today even if they aren’t gratifying in the moment, you will set yourself up for a more fulfilling future tomorrow. The opposite occurs when you instantly gratify yourself by investing in poisoning your eyes with negative content that makes you envy, invest in your friends who judging other people, and harm your body with substances. These bad habits and laziness is going to make you take a step backward on being able to enjoy the present moment long term.
As you continue on your journey, you can always think about why didn’t you know something before and dwell on the past, or think about all why your present isn’t perfect, or all the future possibilities, but why not live in the freedom of the moment and move forward.
YOU ARE WHERE YOU NEED TO BE RIGHT NOW ON YOUR JOURNEY IN THE PRESENT MOMENT !!!
Embrace the knowledge and freedom you have gained up to this point and go capture your dreams consistently and patiently. Give it everything you got whether it’s a job or school because creating good habits, strong work ethic, and achieving your mental and physical peak each day will allow you to Fail Freely! These are prerequisites for setting yourself up for the most opportunities that will create the most amount of freedom for you in future and allow you to be most prepared when that unexpected time comes when you are called up to the plate. YOU WILL SHINE
Actionable Steps To Be Present Where You Are
Prepare to Be Present in the Moment
Nothing out of your control will be able to harm you in the long term if you are prepared. Think about that time you were in a place and instead of maximizing peace and enjoyment in the present moment, and you couldn’t stop thinking about one thing that would make the experience better or the one thing you forget that was essential to being present in the moment. The reality is that the key to fully enjoying the present moment and not thinking about the future is not having anything bothering you. Step back before you dive into an activity, stretch, and think about what you truly need to be able to fully maximize your peace in the present moment. The most epic experiences come from people, uncomfortable situations, and preparation. Don’t sell your soul to an expectation or destination, create preparation that guarantees your own enjoyment and growth for any moment.
It doesn’t matter if you are at an airport at 1am or the 3rd nicest beach in the world, preparation allows your mindset to believe “This Is Where I Need To Be In This Moment!”
I am quite confident you are going to crush the week maximizing the present moment !!
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Originally published at brandonlabella.com