I have to remind myself of this, often. I’m sure most women have to remind themselves of this, often. It’s hard to believe we are all perfectly good enough in the world of:
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Shakespeare wrote: “Striving to better, oft we mar what’s well.”
There is nothing wrong with wanting more for ourselves. I’m all about improvement in any number of manners. Lose a little weight, eat healthier, do better for the environment, show more love, be more grateful, and travel more. BUT, I think as a whole we get wrapped up in the outcome of any given thing we want to improve.
High-stress levels, lack of proper sleep, poor health, strained relationships and any number of other problems are related to how we perceive ourselves and how that affects our state of mind. Just thinking about being ok with who we are can lead to improvements overall.
I get frustrated when I don’t meet some goal I’ve set for myself. I’m sure you do too. It is so easy to have these high aspirations for improvement or lofty goals that we HAVE to reach. Then we turn around and chide ourselves for not reaching them. THEN, let’s get pissed off, go the other way, and stop trying. Talk about self-sabotage! I am the QUEEN of not being good enough, and always trying to be perfect, but I’m learning to be OK with who I am, right here where I am.
This is the key. To be happy with where we are right now. If the goal is C and we only reach B, be proud of that and then work on getting to C. Be ok with what you are doing. If you are trying to lose weight, be happy with the one or two pounds instead of beating yourself up because it’s not ten pounds. Be glad you changed some of your cleaners in your chem-free efforts. Be happy your kids like to go to school, even if they aren’t bringing home straight A’s. Be OK with reading a page, if not a chapter in your current book.
Be happy with being perfectly good enough. You are you know!
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Originally published at dawnengler.com on May 9, 2016.
Originally published at medium.com