Have you ever talked yourself out of an exciting plan because you started making a mental list of all the things that could go wrong?
Maybe you had a dream and shared it with others just to listen to them tell you all the things that could go wrong?
It’s disappointing and your enthusiasm deflates faster than you can pull yourself out of the discouragement.
There’s something in our human nature or in our culture that wants to drive us to focus on all the things that can go wrong.
This thinking is sinister because it wraps itself in the disguises of care, concern, and duty.
Think about that. It’s often the people who care most about us that warn us of all the things that can wrong.
There is a stance you can take right now to neutralize that negative thinking.
After all, isn’t it much more likely that something is going to go right?
I’m going to avoid elaborating here on the concept of nothing actually being good or bad, as it’s only our thinking that makes it so.
Chances are, if you are reading this article, you’ve already been exposed to that way of thinking.
Heck, you’ve seen that famous quote if you’ve been on any social media site.
“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” William Shakespeare
Things are going right all the time and we just don’t notice them.
The reason we don’t notice them is simply because they are going right!
We don’t notice all the intricate actions and reactions of our bodies, we only notice when something hurts.
We don’t get worked up because our car starts every morning, only when it doesn’t.
“When we take time to notice the things that go right — it means we’re getting a lot of little rewards throughout the day.” Martin Seligman
If you can stretch your mind to contemplate all the actions and reactions happening right at this moment in the universe, you’ll understand that everything is going right.
The things that seem to not be going right are barely a drop in a vast, vast sea.
The next time you’re tempted to make a mental list of all the things that could go wrong with a plan, a dream or an idea, step back and sort that list.
Sure, some ideas involve risk, so be honest with yourself about what’s realistic.
If there’s a legitimate risk, what can you do to mitigate it?
Now, go ahead and make a list of every thing that can go right.
For every overblown, unrealistic “wrong” that you have on your list, counter it with an equally grand and awesome positive outcome.
During this process, remember to say “thank you” for all the things that are going right right now and for all the things that will continue to go right in the future.
Meditate each day on both the simple and the complicated things that are flowing smoothly in your life.
When something doesn’t go as expected and it feels “wrong”, trust and know that it’s only one step along the path to what’s “right”.
Don’t be tempted to let any words slip from your mouth that affirm that things just don’t go right for you.
Keep seeing what’s going right and more will appear. The odds are in your favor, and Life wants good things for you!
As ever, I wish you all the best!
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Originally published at medium.com