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Owning Your Voice: 4 Tips for Getting Your Message Heard

Watch your phrases.

Whether you’re chatting with your significant other or meeting with your boss, have you ever felt like your voice isn’t truly being heard?

Unfortunately, this concern is all too common. The good news? There’s a solution, and it all comes down to your delivery. 

Start owning your voice with these best practices from Tricia Brouk, leading public speaking coach and Executive Director of Speakers Who Dare.

Avoid getting aggressive.

When it comes to communicating an issue, your attitude makes all the difference.

“It’s easy to get aggressive or raise your voice when you aren’t getting what you want,” says Brouk. “However, that’s not the most productive or successful tactic to get people to pay attention.”

Instead, Brouk recommends shifting your focus toward serving the other person. Rather than approaching a problem in an accusatory manner, think about how you can help the individual that you’re angry or frustrated with.

For instance, Brouk says that “How can I help you be on time?” is far more supportive than “why are you always late?”

Rather than feeling like they are being scolded, Brouk explains that this approach will create a space place for the other person to feel understood and supported.  

Change your action.

Do you feel that you’re having the same frustrating conversation over and over again, and never reaching your objective?

In these cases, Brouk advises reconsidering your chosen action.

“When you’re clear on your objective, that won’t change,” says Brouk. “But if you aren’t getting what you want, then you have to change your action.”

For instance, maybe you’re delivering a presentation and notice that many people in the audience are on their phones and not paying attention. Regain their focus by altering your behavior.

“Use the action of whisper,” says Brouk.  Alternatively, you can introduce a more entertaining visual activity on stage.

With a few revamped strategies, your messages may have a greater overall impact.

Believe that your voice matters.

When seeking to establish trust, never underestimate the power of your internal beliefs.

When sharing ideas in an office meeting without a clear sense of assurance and authority, your messages likely won’t be understood or considered.

Therefore, Brouk emphasizes the importance of maintaining confidence in the value of your contributions. Once you’ve mastered this, start relentlessly getting your voice out there.

To do this effectively, Brouk recommends writing down the points you plan to hit and why they’re important to you. “Then ask yourself why they’re important to your audience,” says Brouk.

This empowers you to deliver a message that’s mutually beneficial, which will result in a successful outcome.

“It’s not about being louder and bolder,” says Brouk. “It’s about understanding what you want and how you’re going to get it.”

Watch your phrases.

To improve the way that your messages are received, Brouk explains that your phrasing matters.

Rather than leading with conflict, a collaborative style of communication can create a more positive atmosphere and lead to a better outcome.

Brouk suggests using phrases such as “I’d love to know how you feel about this” or “It would be great for us to figure this out together.”

These messages prioritize the big picture, which results in more productive communication overall.

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