“May the Forth” Be With You!
This probably isn’t the first time you read that today, and it probably won’t be the last. However, as someone who has never even seen one Star Wars movie, this phrase doesn’t mean a whole lot to me- until Brené Brown posted an article on LinkedIn:
The most difficult part of our stories is often what we bring to them—what we make up about who we are and how we are perceived by others. Yes, maybe we failed or screwed up a project, but what makes that story so painful is what we tell ourselves about our own self-worth and value.
Owning our stories means acknowledging our feelings and wrestling with the hard emotions—our fear, anger, aggression, shame, and blame. This isn’t easy, but the alternative—denying our stories and disengaging from emotion—means choosing to live our entire lives in the dark. It means no accountability, no learning, no growth.
To harness the Force, we must own our stories and live our truth. In we must go.
Adapted from the amazing book Rising Strong, Brené related “the force” to shame, vulnerability, and fear. As a role model, Brené has taught me there is beauty in my story- even when it doesn’t seem so pretty. Our society teaches us to “be” a certain way, when in reality, we’re doing ourselves (and others) a disservice by holding back what’s truly in our soul. Why would we want people to love us for what we are not? Why would we ever want to be accepted under false pretenses?
It’s amazing when I look back on how I used to live- I used to be crippled by what the outside world thought. I used to hold back my talents in fear of people criticizing me, I used to quit things in fear of failing, and I questioned my talents because of a few naysayers. I used to be on defense, 24/7, wondering what little remark or mean comment would come next.
I used to have an internal battle with my own brain, second guessing every move I made:
“Don’t say that!”
“You shouldn’t wear this!”
“Someone might laugh at you!”
“What will people think?”
Thank goodness my mindset has changed.
I hope you will gladly accept your power, give yourself a break from doubt or shame, and own the uniqueness that is you. You are worth it.
Originally published at mindfulinstyle.blog