Once a Mother…

The week I got my nurturing fix

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Empty-nesting is liberating, for sure. I sleep, eat, and play whenever and wherever I want (most of the time). I don’t even have a pet.

My kids are young adults and one of them even has kids of her own. They need very little from me at this point — occasional work or parenting advice, a recipe, an address, or some tidbit of family health history.

But this past week I got an opportunity to be the full-on mom again, and I quite liked it.

I played Play Dough with my granddaughter and catch with my grandson. I cut up fruit for their breakfast and even changed a diaper. Like riding a bike, you never forget how.

My younger daughter had a group of friends out for the weekend and I took their breakfast orders and made a bagel run.

And, just like in the “old days” of motherhood, I juggled my mothering with work, finishing three major projects within deadlines.

The big difference between now and then is that I’m able to enjoy it more. I worry less about screwing-up. I usually manage my stress better.

I don’t miss the early morning wake-up times, the diaper-changing, and the crying. But I do miss serving meals for groups of kids and listening to their conversations. I miss the bedtime hugs and kisses.

Today I return to my adult life. I will mentor rather than mother. I’ll bring an extra cup of coffee for a co-worker. I’ll even get up super-early when I hear a cry. But it’s more likely to be a client “cry” via e-mail asking for something for an urgent deadline.

All are gratifying, but the title of Mom is one that lasts forever.

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