Oh no, the rabbit hole

Two quick ways to shift out of negative thinking

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“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” — William Shakespeare

Lying in bed sick with a bad cold, I could easily start spiraling down that “rabbit hole” of negative thinking. Some say we only have ten seconds to change our mindset when the less-than-desirable thoughts pop up.

An active lifestyle is my preference; laying low for extended periods of time is not. Yet, I’m using this downtime to catch up on life, meditate, read emails or listen to audios of other inspiring thought leaders.

I’ve learned over the years to imagine a big red stop sign in my mind when I feel despair or anxiety creeping up. “No” that scary or limiting thought is not allowed in, I tell myself. I intentionally choose a more positive thought, or call a friend to help lift my mood to a more positive outlook. Sometimes outside perspective helps refresh our memories of our strengths and goodness when we hit a moment of feeling low.

One of the quickest ways of sinking into the rabbit hole is by comparing ourselves to others. When we start making up stories about the grander lives others appear to have, we set ourselves up as victims. Victim thinking stops us from taking full responsibility to create the lives we want.

Two quick ways out of the rabbit hole are to pick up a pen and start writing down five things you are grateful for, then go out and help someone else.

It’s okay to have “off” days. Sometimes, we need to face some negativity to clear old conditioning from early years of life.

Why coaching helps when you hit “a rabbit hole”:

“Almost universally, the experiences that cause people to feel stuck have roots in what are considered negative beliefs created early in life. And it’s precisely because they are subconscious that it’s often difficult for us to see them in ourselves…Ninety percent or more of our daily actions are responses that come from the reservoir of information we accumulated during the first seven years of life…The reality is that most of us learned our subconscious habits in an environment that was a mixed bag.”

–Gregg Braden, The Spontaneous Healing of Belief.

Using my nearly 20 years of expertise in helping clients identify and shift those subconscious beliefs, I have witnessed many people dramatically and consistently change their lives for the better.

This month, through June, I am offering a specially discounted 6-session coaching package to help you live from a stronger set of beliefs that can defy or greatly shorten those rabbit hole experiences.

If you’d like to learn more, email me at [email protected] and we can set up a free 15-minute consult. I also would be glad to send you recent testimonials of my work that incorporates the latest in neuroscience, where new breakthroughs in ways of changing a person’s mindset are occurring at a rapid pace.

Upward we go,


The beautiful “hole”-in-the-tree photo above was captured by my friend Chris Young at the gorgeous Long Hill gardens in Beverly, Mass. Chris has a passion for photography and beauty (and he is also a great cook!).

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