Hey Fellow Nurse,
From experience, I know that the best by-product of recognizing when you need help…
Is the ideal work-life balance that you’ve dreamed about.
In today’s blog post, I want to reveal and debunk two gigantic roadblocks that are holding anxious & overwhelmed Nurses back…
From experiencing this ideal work-life I created.
So, if you want to take the path of least resistance to enjoying your life at the hospital and home…
And avoid making the same cyclical mistakes that lead to my burnout and acute on chronic anxiety…
Then this quick read is for you.
Let me begin with… I am going to ask you a direct question…
What would you say the most important part of your daily life should be?
Is it…
Your passion or grit?
Your shift work?
Your adventures?
Your family?
Your Soul’s desire?
Your belief in yourself?
Your drive?
Your desire?
Your multitasking abilities?
These are all totally important parts of daily life, for sure…
But what if I told you that NONE of these should be the most important part of your daily life…
The truth is, the head, heart & gut of your daily operations…
Is YOUR MINDSET.
As Nurses and busy care-givers we strive for perfection, organization, and success… it’s literally ingrained into who we are.
So, you’ve gotta be the brain of the whole operation, right?
But in reality?
That’s almost unbearable to think about…
Up until 4.5 years ago, I didn’t realize how much my mindset was hindering my entire life’s purpose.
I was anxious and overwhelmed…that’s really an understatement, sure…
But I just summed it this is nurse life…
Everyone feels like this right?
Everyone I hear at work bitches all of the time…
Everyone works their ass off, bitches about money and life, and says ‘yes’ to working more and more and more and more OT?
Well, maybe that’s true for the first few years of being a nurse…
But 19 years into working at a hospital, I was still operating like a robot; clock-in and out, follow policy and procedure, and take more and more sick patients and just deal with it.
And I totally burned out because I was so friggin’ anxious & overwhelmed.
Sitting on my couch with a 14 week old baby inside of me with compression stockings on, a glass of water and remote…
I knew, THIS IS NOT A WAY TO LIVE…
I knew that being a mom would change me, but I had no idea that it would be such a wake up call…
I needed to start being intentional about the way I was doing things at work to create a better mental environment.
But I also couldn’t help but wonder how I’d gotten myself into this trap…
Everyday I walked into the hospital I literally prayed for it to be over before I even got there.
Why were so many other people in this profession willing to feel like this, who thought it was normal to feel like an internal tug of war was going on?
What were all these women doing to survive?
When I wrestled with this question, I realized that…
First of all, I wasn’t alone.
There were other women around me who were overwhelmed, anxious, and on the autobahn to burn out.
But second of all…
That were in fact two big reasons how they were surviving…
And they did it when they hit their rock- nursing- bottom…
Turn-over is at an ultimate high…
The reasons nurses are struggling are:
#1. They started meds.
They thought they had tried everything but they don’t know the right steps to take because most options are conventional & modern medicine will fix it…
And the result is, they don’t feel like themselves…
…more and more meds are added.
Less clarity…
And…
Living in a fog…
#2. They don’t have any support from the hospital.
The dark cloud that looms within the hospital is a hierarchy of supporting patients not the care-givers.
This is a dangerous and just completely sucks.
No doubt the face of the hospital is to help patients but at what cost to the people actually doing the helping.
And the sad part is the public has no idea how hard we work and how we truly want to help people…
BUT are unable to because of the robotic like demands of non-nursing tasks or not enough staff to actually take care of patients the way they deserve to be taken care of.
I know I had been in the cyclical work-life pattern of surviving.
Do you know what I mean?
Do you wish you had some sort of support from the so-called providers of healthcare?
Someone hear what you are saying?
Someone who will implement new techniques for Nurses and not the patients?
I desperately could have used the support a few years ago when I found myself in a state of emotional and mental turmoil and at my wits end because of the hospital.
But I didn’t know where to find it!!
Let’s look into reason number that nurses are struggling with…
It’s because they don’t know all of their options.
It’s hard to be intentional about changing without knowing every type of opportunity that can potentially be a game-changer.
As I looked closer at myself…
I realized just how intentional I was to find another option. I refused to be put into this label or box.
Specifically help that did not include medications…
ZERO.
Yet so many Nurses I know do not know this is an option…
And as a result, they medicating themselves when they don’t truly have to.
The main reason why people feel stuck…
Is because we are engulfed by the hospital way of thinking.
You only know what you know…
I mean…the hospital becomes a part of who you are…
What other job shares what we share with each other at a day of work: death, life, and all the other lovely things in-between.
The first step is to empower yourself with ALL options: conventional and unconventional.
Figure out how much your emotional and physical freedom means to you and what you are willing to try, even if it isn’t the typical prescription…
And only focus on what you want… not what other docs and nurses think is the norm…
By hyper-focusing on emotional and physical health, your mindset begins to shift and change. The hippocampus begins to regulate your hormones in a more efficient way.
Don’t worry… it requires way less effort than you actually think…
Basically, if I want to make myself less anxious and stressed, I chose not to be…
I know, you just rolled your eyes…
The second step is to understand that the hospital isn’t going to give you the tools you need to be an amazing nurse or human…
And ask yourself, is the hospital worth my soul?
Think about it like this…
They are focused on patients and money…
And while there’s nothing wrong with it being a money maker…
The overall health and HUMAN satisfaction should be noted…
When I saw massive success using this specific technique of Real-Time Transformative Response©…
I started to try on fellow co-workers and clients.
I figured out a way to diffuse #1 and #2 of the struggle bus that Nurses are on:
You can change your anxiety and overwhelm with just your mindset, belief and action.
Wondering how this can be done?
Is taking some actionable steps worth your sanity?
Is thinking outside of the box worth a try to free yourself, forever?
Or could you pop a pill and pray you might feel better… So you can pretend to function instead of fixing how you function…
My daily life now looks something like this:
- Before work I get up a few minutes early to set my mental workday up…
- Manage my anxiety to be a 0–1/10 during work using diffusing techniques while at work…
- Know that even if I might have a ‘bad’ day that I do not take it home with me…
- Believe that I will have a balanced life because I am equipped with actionable tools…
- Love getting off work to diffuse on the way home so I can love home life…
I have learned to setup my work-life the best way by using those unconventional techniques I have been talking about.
By learning that conventional routes aren’t always the best and being my own advocate…
I was able to discover this actionable and actually usable plan…
Trying to navigate a traditional plan of care for yourself doesn’t always work…
But by using Real-Time Transformative Results you’ll truly understand that anxiety is manageable and you might actually think work is amazing again.
Now, at this point, I’m sure you’re wondering how… how can I do this in such a short amount of time… I was told meds and months and or years before I might be back to myself…
But, I’m sure you’ve still got a lot of questions.
I’ve told you a lot about why you should seek unconventional modes of helping yourself…
But you might still be stuck on the HOW.
Maybe you’re wondering…
How do I get even find out about different ways to treat my anxiety or overwhelm?
What type of questions do I ask?
How do I just get back to feeling like myself?
What is actually involved?
How much time is involved because popping a pill takes seconds?
How do I know this will work?
How did you figure this process out?
And I get it…
I had all the same questions…
The q’s come from a Nurse who struggles to put themselves first…
It’s because they don’t have any all the options in front of them.
If questions like these are going through your head, I want to ask you something…
What do you have to lose by trying something new?
Who says that conventional always works?
What if you could have a step-by-step HOW to accomplish destroying your anxiety?
If you’re saying, ‘I dunno…’, you’re not alone.
So many Nurses are out there with you, aimlessly searching for something to reduce their anxiety and get their life back…
But to do it in a short time frame- not months or years.
Not with meds, counseling and the same ole meditating… you know, the more conventional stuff.
Which is exactly why I created my Spiritual Nurse community for motivated Nurses who want to zap their anxiety without medications and want to change their life.
Those questions you might be asking are the exact questions I get from over 2,300 Nurses around the world…
But now they have a space to connect and collaborate with me and my team, as well as each other.
If you’re curious to know more about Real-Time Transformative Response, I’ve actually just put the finishing touches on a brand-new trial opportunity.
You’ll get a personalized session…
And a community of hundreds of other female Nurses who totally know what you’re going through…
You also get access to my exclusive Anxiety Game Plan …
Anxiety & overwhelm strategies that clearly outline HOW to get results so you get your life back and get back to why you became a Nurse.
You can be that person you’ve always wanted, not by medicating but actually changing your brain & life.
Get ready to change your life…
IF YOU WANT TO…
Join my FB Group: The Spiritual Nurse and find out more about my Anxiety Game Plan HERE