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3 ways to avoid reinvention fatigue in 2019

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It’s once again that time of year when we’re constantly reminded that we must emerge on January 1st as way better versions of ourselves.

All the hype about total transformation can lead to “reinvention fatigue,” a combined state of angst and exhaustion that we’re missing the mark if we’re not ideating epic and grandiose strategies to rebirth ourselves for the fiftieth time.

It’s not enough that we made it out alive in 2018.

That we did our best. That while we weren’t perfect, we helped clean up the messes we created and or inherited.

Instead we’re told that we need to transform. Become something totally new and to find the formula that helps us become the human-bots we’re all destined to evolve into. Super-hero parents. Perfect employees. Machine-like students. Always on, never off. Constant room for improvement. Never enough.

God forbid we’re not living our absolute best lives every second of the day at every stage of life, just like everybody else on Instagram.

Shame on us if we don’t craft the perfect plan to jump through all the hoops set before us like we’re straight out of Cirque de Soleil.

It’s not that I don’t love the drop of the ball, the fresh journals to write in and the 30-day challenges. My quest for personal growth is arguably neurotic. The intention setting. List making. Goal tracking. I’m obsessed with visualization, manifestation and the quest for constant evolution and actualization. I love learning and unlearning and relearning. This all has its place.

But sometimes it’s too much. It becomes exhausting. In our fatigued states, we lose clarity that we just might need to simply return back to ourselves and each other with a sense of peace and compassion. To ward off the messages that we are human doings, and remember we are human beings. That while personal overhaul is often needed, it can go too far. That our quest for perfection can leave us unable to actually enjoy how far we’ve already come.

What if it was just a win that we showed up and we’re honest and we lent a hand when it was needed? What if we untangled ourselves from the inhumane illusions of perfection and celebrated who we already are?

Maybe reinvention fatigue can be lessened when you:

1. Resist the urge to audit yourself non-stop.Self-reflection and change can be healthy, but when feelings of never-enough eat at you constantly, it might be time to stop approaching life like you’re a problem to solve. Identify strengths to build on instead of just focusing on “weaknesses” to fix.

2. Set the right pace. Think sustained progress over the long haul, not urgent and dramatic sweeping change. Burnout can quickly creep up when we think we have to sprint to new horizons at the drop of the ball. Set a pace that is reasonable and humane.

3. Celebrate Now You. Visualize your progress over the past few years and stop and acknowledge ways you’ve been brave and resilient. Own your strengths at this moment. Appreciate the ways you’ve endured, overcome and are doing your very best. Practice gratitude for what is true right now.

Reinvention fatigue can leave us in messy cycles long after the champagne bottles and confetti have been cleaned up.  Here’s to a 2019 that leaves space for being, not just doing.

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