We all know that kind of people that are always too busy so they don’t have time for a coffee, hanging out or going out. They always say “Oh I just don’t have the time for it”. They are not busy, they are lying to you, they are full of bullshit. I know it, I was one of them.
Come on, I don’t think that your boss gave you so much work that you need to work more than 10 hours per day. If you work 10 hours you have at least 5 hours more to spend doing whatever you want. But, you don’t have time to grab a coffee with someone? How much that coffee could take? 1 hour? Let it be 30min. You will still have 4 and a half hours for other stuff. “No, really I don’t have time”. We just conducted that you have time, so what is the problem? It’s ok, maybe you want to spend it with your family or you want to read or do something else. It’s just a statement “I don’t have the time” that’s so wrong.
The problem is not that person doesn’t have time, problem is that time with you is not important to them. They have more important things to do than to meet with you. They can choose with whom they will spend time. Long story short, they don’t want to allocate time for you. Maybe it’s not something that you want to hear, but it’s the truth, you are not their priority. It’s brutal, but it’s honest. The sentence “I don’t have the time” is just a lie and we are lying all the time.
Just think about it, how many times you declined an offer for meeting/caffe/company because you were tired and decided to just relax at home. Did you ever decide to just relax at home instead of going to job? Maybe, but not so often. Why? Because your job is a priority since it will pay your bills. But, when someone asks you for your time outside a job, then it’s just fine to relax at home? Yes, it is! You have your time in control, and you know what your priorities are, if someone is not there, ah it’s a life, let it go.
While working in two companies and studying at University at the same time I still manage to attend dance classes for more than 10 hours per week. I still manage to visit my family every weekend. How I manage that? Well, it’s important to me, it’s one of my priorities, but maybe for you I will not have time. Change in priorities is most often the reason why someone you know becomes someone you knew. To have time for the important things you need to not spend time on unimportant things.
The sad truth is that everyone has a life clock, our time is limited. We should realize, before that clock comes to an end, that it is important how we spend the time. Don’t miss it, don’t miss spending your time on things that matter to you! Don’t listen to anyone, they have their own clock. You have your clock, your time and your destiny in control so don’t waste it.
If someone is not your priority don’t spend the most important resource on him, fuck it. But, don’t say you don’t have the time, because we know that you have. Everyone has time for everything, it’s just a matter of priority.
Originally published at medium.com