Building a business is both incredibly exciting but also incredibly scary. I can switch from fear to excitement and back again in seconds.
I start to think about and idea that I could develop, get excited about all of the possibilities and Nigel (my inner talk, stress and worry) is straight in there with his reminders of everything that could go wrong.
Nigel is super active at the moment, hovering over the big red button.
The big red button is my stress response. The reaction to this button being pressed is the same for me whether the stressor is:
Physical – Finding a spider somewhere on my body (the thought makes my toes curl!)
Psychological – the build-up of worry about something that may happen,
Nigel thinks he is in charge of pressing the big red button to enable the stress response.
Nigel also dramatises a lot of my worries. He whittles on about:
What if you can’t make this business work? What if someone laughs at you in the gym? What if you fall over when I walk in the restaurant first? What if no one ever sees how funny and amazing you are and you are? Blah blah blah
The problem is he got in to a habit of pressing the big red button for all of these ‘crisis’ as he sees them instead of the real emergencies when we need to fight or run like billy-o away from an eight legged terror.
He has needed a lot of training and an ongoing training plan about what is and what isn’t a real danger. Along with this we have a method for override in the ‘moment’:
Not as easy as it sounds, and this is not a ‘5 step process for you to rid stress forever’. But with practice and constancy Nige and I are improving.
Who is Nigel?
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Originally published at www.kateforknell.com