Did You Already Blow the New Year’s Resolution?

No worries. You still have time to lose the right weight.

Let it go. (Photo by Leslie Adams,

You ate chocolate, didn’t you? Lots of chocolate. And maybe a few orders of french fries. Possibly some spaghetti. I understand. And, since I might be the only Jewish momma you have, I feel obligated to tell you the truth. It’s OK. Sure, you blew the New Year’s resolution. But, it’s still a new year, and — since we’re telling the truth here — you really do need to lose that weight.

You need to lose the weight of the world. Your shoulders are strong and beautiful. They were never meant to carry the universe. Keep doing what you can to make our world a better place; we need you more than ever. But, as you do, remember that the world will keep spinning even if you stop pushing. You know, at least for a day or two.

You need to lose the weight of the past. You made mistakes. You didn’t do your best. You spoke in anger. Maybe you messed up this year. Maybe you’re still fretting about something from decades ago. Or, perhaps the weight you bear stems from another’s action. Someone wounded you, abused you, broke you. No matter what your past burden, dear heart, let this be the year you let it go.

You need to lose the weight of expectations. I don’t know if it’s your expectations weighing you down, or expectations imposed upon you. I do know that fear of failure can paralyze progress. In 2018, expect to do your best. Do it. And applaud your effort regardless of the results. Step by step gets us where we’re going.

In 2018, let’s not measure success by how many pounds we lose. Let’s measure success by how many lives we enrich. Let’s measure success by how generously we give, how wholeheartedly we laugh, how deeply we love.

In 2018, let’s be kind to each other. Let’s be kind to ourselves.

Jewish tradition tells us that 18 — chai — is a lucky number. Chai is also the Hebrew word for life. After surviving 2017, I’m taking the new year’s new number as a good sign. May 2018 be a happy, healthy year for all of us. May you lose what you need to lose, find what you hope to find, and pause long enough to remember: It really is a wonderful world.


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