Mindfulness Anger

How to be angry.. mindfully

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When was the last time you got angry? This morning? Are you getting angry at reading these words?!

Anger is just one of around nine emotions a human being goes through, daily!

What are your triggers for getting into an angry state? One of my pet hates is when you are walking on a sidewalk / pavement and two people are walking in the opposite direction (towards you) and they don’t allow for space, so you have to physically stop so they can pass by. I mean what’s that all about?! Is there not enough selfishness and mindless ness in this world already?!

So there you have it, something that can trigger anger, not great especially when you are Christian, we are meant to be humble at all times right? Well this is not realistic, we are humans and have normal.. yes normal reactions to every day situations, just a slightly different way of dealing with them, not in my case .. sometimes.

After almost 2 weeks of being ill with flu I fell into a deep deep pit of darkness. There were days when I didn’t know what time or day it was. I was in agony. This flu was nothing like before, it was my bones, they felt heavy and when the pain was really bad I could not open my eyes without feeling pain in my face and head. It was during that time I kept thinking about my dad and how I should be with him, feeling so very guilty.

My routine went out the window, once I was a little better I started looking up the many auvedtic recipes for the flu and recalled a detox tea which had the same ingredients as a ‘flu shot’ something that had been mentioned on The Health and Wellbeing Show back in December by a guest called Daniela Lawler, founder of Purely You. A kick ass healer.

I promised myself that I would make a batch and start drinking this as soon as I was better. Ginger and turmeric together, I knew this would be an explosion of taste in my mouth!

But before then I needed to get well again, it was most interesting, a situation that happened last summer reared it’s ugly head whilst I was ill. I became angry at being ‘abandoned’ at a train station whilst at a conference with a group of women I didn’t really know that well.

Now I hold my hands up here and confess that I did tell the group to get on the train as it was about to leave, but in my defence, I was visibly flustered and upset. Someone shouting in my ear to ‘hurry up’ did not help.

As it turned out they missed the train they were trying to board and we ended up on the same train, God works in mysterious ways!

What I will say is that in the period of being ill, I noticed how detrimental a lack of routine can be to ones psych.

I found myself getting angry and upset at the ‘small stuff’ it was ridiculous. Now I am not here to reveal some cure that will get you out of the depths of darkness when your sick. But I do want to encourage you to notice how you feel and think when you are sick, how not being in a routine affects you.

If we are to live a life of mindfulness, then its not all about the ‘fluffy’ stuff it’s about observing / noticing how you respond and react in the dark times. Let’s flip this on it’s head, turn it upside down, look at things inside out. How real life effects the human body.

The most important thing is to find ways of getting yourself out of the ‘funk.’ Routine helps but what else helps? Calling a friend? Exercise? Having tools in your back pocket really help.

I am convinced that part of my dad’s dementia has been caused due to my dad get into depressive states and not having tools to use to help. We live in a different world when compared with my dad’s era, we have so much more now to help, you can actually talk about mental health – we still have a long way to go but have come far too.

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