From the outside Michelle and Barack Obama’s marriage appears virtually perfect. But in a recent interview with Good Morning America’s Robin Roberts, the former FLOTUS revealed her marriage requires plenty of work, and that she and Barack have gone to couple’s counseling to bolster their relationship.
“I know too many young couples who struggle and think somehow, there’s something wrong with them” Obama told Roberts. “I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama — who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other — we work on our marriage and we get help with our marriage when we need it.”
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Obama explained that marriage counseling helped the couple talk through their differences and learn that her happiness was her own responsibility. With those realizations, Obama says she “started working out more, I started asking for help, not just from him but from other people.”
In a previous interview with INSIDER, Eli Finkel, a relationship expert and author of “The All-or-Nothing Marriage,” suggested finding friends or co-workers to satisfy areas of life where your marriage may fall short.
“If you find yourself chronically disappointed in one element of your marriage, or in a subset of elements of your marriage, one of the really good ways of dealing with that is to think about: Is it really essential that I try to meet this need in particular through the marriage?” Finkel said.
For example, if you love to play tennis but your partner isn’t interested, ask yourself whether you can enjoy tennis with a friend rather than getting into an argument or coercing your partner into doing an activity they don’t like.
The former first lady also discussed her experience having a miscarriageand using in-vitro fertilization to concieve her daughters Malia and Sasha Obama. In her forthcoming memoir “Becoming,” Obama details these life experiences and more, including her childhood in Chicago and her career as a lawyer. The book goes on sale November 13.
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