#Metoo: Do Women Need Men?

Can we be powerful and feminine, while admitting our needs for trustworthy, masculine men?

I believe women need men. And men need women.

I’ve realised that a lot of us women were not loved the way we truly wanted to be loved as little girls from our father. So many of us tell ourselves that we don’t need men because we can do everything ourselves.

But I do not think that this is authentic. Because in our hearts, I believe we need men for their presence, masculinity, company, and more. And I believe that this need is healthy.

I see the beauty in the feminist movement, and I believe true power comes from authenticity and vulnerability.

Vulnerability does not mean pushing men away and telling men that we are independent and we don’t need them. Instead, it means expressing our needs to others in a healthy way, and trusting that they will meet them.

Yet, it is so hard to admit the above because a lot of our needs were not met in childhood — and this is painful. So a lot of us push men away, telling ourselves we can do it all on our own, and attempt to numb our pain with distractions, addictions, food, and more.

Yes, as women, we can be independent and strong and do everything on our own. But, are we truly happy when we tell ourselves we don’t need men — their love, presence, company, humour, and more?

Can we be powerful and feminine at the same time, while admitting our needs for trustworthy, masculine men?

Of course, there are men who are dangerous and do not have the best intentions, and we may have encountered such men who shaped our perception toward the opposite sex.

But I believe there are also a lot of good men out there. Good men who need vulnerable, feminine, and powerful women.

I believe that when we admit our healthy needs for each other, we can respect each other and work together to create a better, more evolved society that honours both the divine feminine and masculine.

Stay tuned for the next article on why men are also the “victim” of patriarchy.

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