Maybe You Should Be Uncoachable?

Build your business from a place of "knowing."

What if you already have all of the answers inside of you?

Has someone ever given you advice that didn’t really resonate and yet you found yourself thinking, “I should try to be open-minded and be more ‘coachable.'”

Well, sometimes in an effort to be “coachable” or “open”, we get swayed from our paths.

It happens to all of us from time to time, and in fact, it happened to me recently. I made some decisions in my marketing that in hindsight, I don’t think were the right decisions.

For me, when I get swayed, it often comes from a place of wanting to be liked.

I get advice and I want to be respectful and listen to the opinion of others. I want to be open or at least APPEAR open!  Haha. I don’t want people to think I’m not “coachable.”

But here’s the deal, for me, sometimes in an effort to be coachable, I move away from my “knowing” and that’s what happened, in this case, I just referenced.

On the other hand, both times I’ve built businesses from zero to a million dollars in revenue in under two years it WASN’T from listening to the advice of others.

That’s just the plain truth.

My BIGGEST phases of financial growth have always happened when I’ve emotionally lined up with what I know to be true for me and stayed there.

FAST growth has always come to me when I’ve lined up with that emotional space that I call “knowing.” (I have a whole chapter on knowing in my book, Train Your Brain.)

When you are seeking, when you are looking for answers, when you are looking for solutions to problems, you are not in “knowing.”

When you are in the emotional state of “knowing”, you may not even be able to explain why you feel like you do. You just “know.”

You feel sure. You feel relaxed. You feel ON the path.

For example, here is what I KNOW without a shadow of a doubt:

Growth in your business does NOT come from having the right website or book cover or business card or graphics.

It doesn’t come from the method you choose to market, whether that be podcasting or blogging or social media.

It does NOT come from the systems you set up or the launch sequence that you initiate or the way you present your products or services.

All of these things are TACTICS and money doesn’t flow from tactics.

There is only one thing that causes money to flow and that is the expectation that money is flowing.

The KNOWING that money is flowing.

The knowing that your business is growing.

I know this from first-hand experience and I’ll bet you’ve already had periods of growth in your business when you’ve experienced this too.

Those moments when it feels like everything’s going GREAT.

Those moments where you feel light and easy because you’re just enjoying the ride.

Those moments where you make choices because it feels like the next fun thing to do.

That is the feeling of “knowing.”

It’s the feeling that everything is right in the world.

During those time periods, you are NOT seeking, because you have found.

During those time periods, you have clarity.

So, if you want to grow your business quickly, then THIS is the “work.”

The “work” is to get into a place of emotional clarity and knowing and stay there.

How do you do that?

I will talk more about this in the coming days, but start here:

Decide that this is the path for you.


Remind yourself of how much you already know.

Remind yourself of how well things are going.

Make a list of your successes.

You’re already doing it and everything counts!

Remember that people follow you because of YOU and not because of your systems or methods or tactics.



Know that the path is unfolding and you are already on it.

Every step in your business has been the “next logical step” and you’ll see the next one too.

Move toward your joy.

Make decisions based from a place of “this sounds fun” rather than “I need to do this.”

Be polite and listen to others, but KNOW what you know.

Know that your number one job is to be rested and centered.

And be so clear and so confident that you are positively uncoachable.

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