A prompt that motivated me to write this blog is the ‘modern slavery of women in the world today’.
If you are expecting to read something light and fun, this blog is not for you.
Sometimes unfortunately, words are not sweet candies to offer, they may be rather be bitter realities. it does not matter we face them or not they do exist somewhere, it is best to put forth an honest picture of them.
While reading history of the world I came across an era when slave trade was a blooming custom. A thorough check was made, as the skill of buying slaves was an art.
The yellowness of complexion, looks, floppy hair and eyes, body inflammation, pain, hidden defects like breath, deafness, stutter and hardness at the base of the teeth were insured along with plenty more to avoid disappointments.
The slaves were then bought and traded to far away places. They were then treated as the master liked. Unknown, unfamiliar place, less exposure and freedom with the religious duty to serve the master and please him, made them perfect prisoners.
Nowadays, times have changed. No one can make any one a prisoner, treat inhumanly or tie them in chains. At least not openly.
The technique now is very simple. To take away the self worth of a person. It can be done in a number of ways. From efficiency to performance, consistency and result. There is a lot to hold on to fuss about in any situation.
However, it is the timing that is crucial. Every time the victim takes a few days to fight the gloomy, dull and negative criticism and finally remembers to feel happy again, the nerves of the master send a warning signal.
A court is resumed. One sided case and evidences are presented, the judge makes a decision. Court is adjourned with the notice of immediate order to prevail.
Now it is the luck of the slave. Some masters like to beat the victim up to feel in control and in power.
Others prefer an envious, insincere expectations with no empathy.
However arrogance, selfishness and judgemental attitude has a common basis in all forms.
Be it gas-lightening, Ignoring, isolating or any other psychologically manipulative technique.
The aim of every abuser, narcissist and cheater is to cut you down emotionally into very small pieces, then to allow you to be happy and back to reality again.
If you are made to feel bad, worthless and better over and over again chances are you are being manipulated .
If you have been physically tortured endlessly before, this psychological manipulation may feel angelic to you. It’s hard for you to understand the strength and extend of this enslavement.
In the cultures where a man is an iconic idol, wife is a worshipper hence the slavery carries on in generations. The same father brings up daughters who are meant to be enslaved by yet another narcissist.
It is these women who often suffer from anxiety. From being beaten brutally by their eldest in the family, while the entire family seem to suddenly become numb to the cruelty of a savage and a beast.
This beast then become a master to another soul and tries to crush the self esteem as hard as he could. To enslave others and feel in power and In control.
Such men do not have the valour, guts or skills to go and fight with men. It is for this reason that these coward, weak and small men consider themselves big while fighting a naive woman.
They seclude the woman. Remind her of her duty to protect the image of a husband. To cover their weaknesses and flaw and to project a better image of them in public. A feeling of entitlement comes in demand.
And while the poor girl longs all her life for a man strong enough to stand by her side, in thick and thin, to be a shield of her against all past oppressors, she is left with a man who is a mouse to the outside world and a lion inside the house, a worthless being.
I feel extremely bad for all such women who have forgotten how to raise their voice. Even in a country like England, where women have more rights than men, I see them hiding their painful beaten bodies and protecting their abusers all in the name of devotion and sincerity.
I feel sad to see them victimised, while their families back home sing songs of how lucky they are to get settled abroad.
I feel bad for all these uneducated girls who cannot sign or spell their names. They have a double fight to get back lost integrity and pride.
I feel even worse for all those educated women, the scholars and professionals who are not perturbed by physical and emotional violence. Who are happy to lead a life of slavery, with frequent dishonour and a breather every now and then.
Self respect and self worth is what every person deserves. So that no one can manipulate it as their weak point. Keeping the reins of self confidence will snatch the key of happiness and approval from these insecure oppressors who know in their heart of hearts how incomplete they are.
Strong is a person who can control their anger, who are forgiving and kind to others. Who support, protect and respect the people who trusts to stay with them all their lives. Strong are the loyal and caring souls for they deserve someone sincere too.
Every woman wishes for a man who sees her true beauty and strength, who helps her keep her jewel of self worth all her life. Who completes her and gives her confidence by not comparing her self to others privately or in public.
I wish for all strong mothers to raise such sons who have patience, kindness and tolerance. Who become a super hero to fight their own weaknesses first and protect their loved ones from their own harm first and then that of the outside world.
I wish for all daughters to hold on to their self confidence and self belief. This jewel needs to be protected at all times and at all costs.