As I began my search to become a better self, I was simply amazed by the amount of new ways of thinking and new practices to include in my daily routine. After all, there are endless tips from gurus and experts on how to transform our reality, right? I was delighted in a way that the first practice I turned into a habit was to begin new practices. Every Day.
I confess that it took me a long time to actually feel the exhaustion caused by the amount of information I was trying to assimilate, while seeking for the best or the most effective set of tools, but eventually I have come to realize that there is no such thing as a magical ritual, full of standard actions, that works for everyone. And that I would have to start using the most precious laboratory for these changes: Myself. And in a consciously and joyful way.
A ritual with magic, is for me, the set of actions that are done in a pleasurable way, and that aim to maintain a routine of self-care, which I believe that the only thing that is certain, is that the benefit comes when we do it daily. But the most important fact I learned after so many readings and courses is: A ritual that will benefit you, is a ritual that is good for you. I mean, is the one that contains actions that your heart says yes to.
I think we can all agree that each one of us is a hole different universe, and that when we come across this quest in life, we are in a very particular moment.
That’s why I would encourage you to stop learning a new mantra, a new breathing sequence, the right time to wake up, what to do for breakfast, what to think before you sleep and ask yourself: What makes sense for you?
You might think that if you knew you would not be doing something as bad as turning the news on, right in the first minutes of your day and letting a lot of disasters enters your mind, for example. But this is only an automatic movement that you have become used to, and if you want to change, it is in your power. Just calm down, and you will hear from yourself the answers to the “how”.
This happens because when you open up, your body begins to give signals of what it is that you can and should do for yourself. And in many times, it’s not even a big deal. Imagine that even if you do not put any new habit in the place of watching the news in the morning, just stop doing so, will already change your day for the better. Simple, right?
After you begin to use your intuition, constantly evaluate: Does this new decision feels good? Is this in congruence with the life I want from now on and with the future I want to achieve? It matches the person I want to become? What level of satisfaction I have while doing so? Or are you still upset for having decided to make these changes after two months trying?
I found for myself that, only feeling with our own heart, that we can decide which behaviors should be included in the routine and which ones should be discarded. Our inner intelligence knows better than anyone what is true and necessary to us. And it is the lack of contact with this internal truth that leads us to want a package full of recipes to follow at any costs.
Have you ever stopped to review how deep this can go? I invite you to pay attention to your New Year’s resolutions, for example. Have you stopped to feel each of the things you want to achieve this year? To see if you keep items that are not to impress your future self, but other people?
When I started testing what was good for me instead of forcing myself to follow things like “what every successful entrepreneur should do,” for example, I started putting that intuition to work in all areas, and I had improved not only the rituals, so they can take me to the place of success that I aspire to, and what happened is that some achievements lost its value and I could let go of a heavy backpack I was carrying, full of expectations that weren’t mine.
I also started to have better relationships, once my transformation was no longer mechanical. I was not meditating before 5 o’clock in the morning just because this is the best time (because if I did not succeeded, I would start the day frustrated – imagine the consequences?!) so I decided to meditate at the best time for me, and this attracted people who are also respecting their own pace, taking authentic steps towards a better life.
In the end, of all the formulas I knew, mostly were forgotten and the remaining I invested with all my being, so every day after finishing the amount of exercises I enjoy, after eating some health food that satisfies me, and after sleeping an amount of hours that makes my body rest and renew, I wake up in gratitude. With a sense of accomplishment that I did not felt when I was forcing myself to follow any “magical rituals” that I have read about.
Of course, there will always be room for improvement, as I increase my goals. But now, I do with the support of the only specialist in what is best for me: My natural intuition. This way I always do it with respect and compassion for my limits, in a way that the journey to transformation is welcomed into my life with joy, and unfolds itself easily.