As I began my search to become a better self, I stumbled upon endless tips on how to do it from the point of view of all kinds of experts, and when I noticed the only practice I turned into a habit was to begin new practices. Every Day.
I confess that it took me a long time to feel the exhaustion caused by the amount of information I was trying to assimilate, while seeking for the best or the most effective way.
But the truth is: There’s no such thing as a magical ritual, full of standard actions, that works for everyone.
After trying many of the advises, I found my own path and understood that a ritual that will benefit you, is a ritual that’s good for you. It’s a routine of self-care that is transformed into something magical – a ritual with magic – in order to make you grow, in a way that you need to grow, with actions that your heart says yes to.
I think we can all agree that each one of us is a hole different universe, and that when we come across this quest in life, we are in a very particular moment.
That’s why I would encourage you to stop learning a new mantra, a new breathing sequence, the right time to wake up, what to do for breakfast, what to think before you sleep and ask yourself: What makes sense for you?
You may think that if you knew you would be on your way to practice already, but maybe your missing the connection with yourself, the one that gives the answers on what to do and how. But when you open up, and ask the question, you begin receive the answers on what you can and should do for yourself. Just quiet your mind to listen.
After you begin to use this intuition, it will be easier to evaluate: Does this new habit feels good? Is this in congruence with the life I want from now on and with the future I want to achieve? It matches the person I want to become? What level of satisfaction I have while doing so? Or are you still upset for having decided to make these changes after two months trying?
I found for myself that, only feeling with our own heart, that we can decide which behaviors should be included and which ones should be discarded. Our inner intelligence knows better than anyone what is true and necessary to us. And it’s the lack of contact with this internal truth that leads us to want a package full of recipes to follow at any costs.
Have you ever stopped to think how deep this can go?
After I stopped forcing myself to follow things like “what every successful person should do,” I improved not only my daily rituals, so they can take me to the place of success that I aspire to but I also let go of a heavy backpack I was carrying, full of goals that weren’t truly mine.
So every day after finishing the amount of exercises I enjoy, after eating some health food that satisfies me, after meditate in the possible time in my schedule, and after sleeping an amount of hours that makes my body rest and renew, I wake up in gratitude.
With a sense of accomplishment that I didn’t felt when I was forcing myself to follow any mechanical steps that I’ve read about. And because I was respecting my routine and rhythm, my practices got stronger, and I started to attract people who were also respecting their own pace, taking authentic steps towards a better life
Of course, there will always be room for improvement, as I increase my goals. But now, I do with the support of the only specialist in what is best for me: My natural intuition. This way I always do it with compassion for my own limits, in a way that the journey to transformation is welcomed into my life with joy.