As I began my pursue to a better life, I stumbled upon endless tips from all kinds of experts, and suddenly noticed that the only practice I turned into a habit was to begin new practices. Every Day.
I confess that it took me a long time to feel the exhaustion caused by the amount of information I was trying to assimilate, while seeking for the best or the most effective way.
But the truth is: There’s no such thing as a magical ritual, full of standard actions, that works for everyone.
After trying many of the advises, I found my own path and understood that a life changing ritual, is a ritual that works. Which means that It’s a routine of self-care that can be transformed into something magical for you, in order to make you grow and with actions that your heart says yes to.
I think we can all agree that each one of us is a hole different universe, and that when we come across this quest in life, we are in a very particular moment.
That’s why I would encourage you to stop learning a new mantra, a new breathing sequence, the right time to wake up, what to do for your breakfast, what to think before you sleep and just ask yourself: What makes sense for you?
Believe me, when you open up, and ask the question, you begin receive the answers on what you can and should do for yourself. * Also remember to quiet your mind in order to listen.
After you begin to use this intuition, it will be easier to evaluate: Does this new habit feels good? Is this in congruence with the life I want from now on and with the future I want to achieve? It matches the person I want to become? What level of satisfaction I have while doing so? Or are you still upset for having decided to make these changes after two months trying?
I found for myself that, only feeling with our own heart, that we can decide which behaviors should be included and which ones should be discarded. Our inner intelligence knows better than anyone what is true and necessary to us. And it’s the lack of contact with this internal truth that leads us to want a package full of recipes to follow at any costs, and with the feeling that nothing is working.
After I stopped forcing myself to follow things like “what every [successful, happy, peaceful, etc] person should do,” I improved not only my daily rituals, so they can take me to the place that I truly aspire to, but I also abandoned a heavy backpack I was carrying, full of goals that weren’t really mine.
So every day after finishing the amount of exercises I enjoy, after eating some health food that satisfies me, after meditating in the afternoon, and after sleeping an amount of hours that makes my body rest and renew, I wake up in gratitude, and with a sense of accomplishment that I didn’t felt when I was forcing myself to follow any mechanical steps that I’ve read about. And because I was respecting my routine and rhythm, my practices got stronger, and I started to attract people who were also respecting their own pace, taking authentic steps towards a better life.
Of course, there will always be room for improvement, as I increase my goals. But now, I do with the support of the only specialist in what is best for me: My natural intuition. This way I always do it with compassion for my own limits, in a way that the journey to transformation is welcomed into my life with joy.