I felt some changes within me that sparked my desire to search for a new job.
I not only sought new opportunities and challenges, but I sought new mentors and leadership that could propel me in my career, rather than hold me back.
You know what I’m talking about, right? My supervisor, y’all. That’s what I mean. I did not agree with his leadership style and did not feel comfortable as an employee working below him.
I’ll be honest, I did have my moments of power struggle where I wanted to preserve my control, autonomy, and individualism, and admittedly, some disputes were of my own making.
A successful relationship between an employee and their supervisor is one in which compromise exists; where the supervisor can see the best in their subordinates and empower them in their strengths, and employees can demonstrate the willingness to trust their supervisors' proficiency and experience.
Unfortunately, I felt my supervisors' style was one of rigidity, not being open to new ideas, and being unable to take into consideration any perspective other than his own.
I did not respond well to his authoritarian demeanor. My creativity felt confined, all in the name of “because he said so;” my sense of empowerment was nonexistent as his approach was to hand me a to-do list for the day; and the biggest disconnect that I felt was the relationship-building component that I feel should be at the foundation of every type relationship.
If you don’t care about the person/people you’re serving as a leader to (and it is apparent), you’re not fit to be their leader.
As you can see I care deeply about this matter, and I do not take lightly what the role of a leader should be.
Nonetheless, I gave him the benefit of the doubt, as he’s young and learning. I recalled past experiences where I held leadership roles but could not meet the demands of it, because I, too, was young and learning.
So, I became in search of an experienced leader that was open-minded to and respected ideas and worldviews that were different from their own; a leader that I would be happy to serve and be a better employee to.
Once I had worked through my inner feelings of petty power-struggles and the internal conflicts that I was dealing with as a result of what I felt was poor leadership, I felt ready to leave.
I came to accept the situation for what it was and I realized that I, too, had to be open-minded to other worldviews. Even though I didn’t agree with it, it was his style. And harboring negative feelings towards it was unproductive.
But staying in a situation that I felt was not in alignment with who I understood myself to be and what I prefered to experience, was also unproductive.
Thus began my job hunt. So, I prayed for, had faith for, and already started giving thanks for a job that was perfect for me.
AND BOY DID THE UNIVERSE DELIVER.
I was seriously appalled at all the right spots my soon-to-be-manager was hitting.
It’s almost as though the universe was saying: “YOUR WISH IS MY COMMAND.”
This experienced showed me how important it is to understand your potential supervisor’s style,
So, I’m going to boldly say - chose your supervisor wisely. Put that at the top of your checklist when considering what you’re looking for in a job.
Ask for it, pray for it, have faith for it, and give thanks for it.
Talk about living life intentionally, eh?