Serve Others — Volunteering (animal rescue) saved me from a deep depression. Doing for other helps you step out of your own problems. Even when you feel like you can’t save yourself, you can save someone else.
Do you ever wake up in the morning feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, unchallenged, and have nothing to look forward to? It doesn’t have to be that way. One idea that I always advice my clients is to “Detox yourself”.
It is interesting how our relationships with our bodies dictate our relationships with the partners and with the world. When we feel fit and sexy we are on top of the world and one with the world; but when our bodies feel unattractive to us we often create discord alienation and push partners, jobs, and opportunities away.
When we start cutting of all toxic things from our lives- foods, drinks, habits, people, places — everything changes- our body, our psyche and mind. Our life becomes ravenous and fulfilling. Any disciplined action (such as getting in shape, or healing yourself from a disease, quitting drugs and alcohol) is a spiritual journey that is also transformational in many ways- and affects not only your body but your life in general.
As a part of our series interviewing experts on how to live a “ravenous life” — a life filled with the passion, pleasure, playfulness and abundance that come naturally to those who dare to be authentic, I had the pleasure of interviewing Sheryl Green, storytelling expert and animal advocate. Sheryl Green has always enjoyed writing, however, it wasn’t until a divorce shook her world, that she discovered the power of story. Having penned three novels, she now brings her penchant for storytelling to non-fiction and content writing, working with businesses and individuals who want to position themselves as experts in their field. She leverages the power of story through blogging, website content, book coaching and ghostwriting, and speaking engagements. Learn more at www.sherylgreenspeaks.com.
Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
In 2008, I was married and living with my husband in North Carolina. One day, I received a call that he had been arrested for “soliciting a minor online.” After bailing him out of jail, I left him and moved to Las Vegas to start a new life. I struggled with random jobs for several years before realizing that I had a talent for writing and speaking and could share my message of resilience to help others overcome their obstacles and rewrite their stories.
What does it mean for you to live “on purpose”? Can you explain? How can one achieve that?
There’s a constant stream of people in our lives telling us what we should and should not do, be, and want. Too often, we end up following other people’s paths or falling into careers and relationships of convenience instead of uncovering our purpose in this world and then doing everything in our power to achieve it. Imagine a world where everyone loved their jobs and their lives because they were doing what they were meant to do!
Do you have an example or story in your own life of how your pain helped to guide you to finding your life’s purpose?
My divorce was a huge wake up call. I was working at a soul-sucking job that didn’t use even half of my abilities or potential and I was married to a man that I wasn’t attracted to on any level. When I got my “kick in the butt,” I went through a period of clinical depression. I wallowed for a bit, but then my stepmom made me get off the floor and go help someone else. I turned to animal rescue and it gave my life purpose. The animals saved me from an uncertain future and I’ll spend the rest of my life saving them.
The United States is currently rated at #18 in the World Happiness Report. Can you share a few reasons why you think the ranking is so low?
I think that as a society, we’ve lost the real meaning of “happiness.” We look for it in things, filling our lives with meaningless products that will only give us momentary joy. True happiness comes from doing things for others. It’s that feeling when you know you’ve changed a life for the better. We need to stop being concerned with how much money or “stuff” we’ve amassed and start looking at how we can make the world better for someone else (animals included!).
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?
In a few ways!
- I serve as the Director of Communications and Cuddling for Hearts Alive Village Animal Rescue in Las Vegas. I’ve helped raise almost $100k and saved close to 2 thousand dogs and cats.
- I’m in the process of co-founding the country’s only Cause Marketing Chamber of Commerce so we can teach businesses and non-profits how to work together for the benefit of all.
- I’m a motivational speaker and serve on the board of the Unstuck Foundation. We put on events throughout the country where attendees can hear inspiring stories of tragedy to triumph and learn the tools necessary to get “unstuck” in their own lives.
-My two books, “Surviving to Thriving: How to Overcome Setbacks and Rock Your Life” and “Once Upon a Bottom Line: Harnessing the Power of Storytelling in Sales” help individuals and businesses make the most out of their circumstances and create a better future. A percentage of sales and every speaking engagement are donated to Hearts Alive Village.
What are your 6 strategies to help you face your day with exuberance, “Joie De Vivre” and a “ravenous thirst for life”? Can you please give a story or example for each?
1) Serve Others — Volunteering (animal rescue) saved me from a deep depression. Doing for other helps you step out of your own problems. Even when you feel like you can’t save yourself, you can save someone else.
2) Know your Why — When you know the driving force behind your life, you can see the bad days for what they really are… bad days.
3) Be grateful — Adopt a gratitude practice that helps you focus on the good even when the bad is overwhelming. I did 365 days of gratitude on Facebook and it changed my attitude completely.
4) Do one thing each day that scares you (I call this the Diaper List — because it scares the sh*t out of you). Avoid getting stuck in “Comfort Zone Quicksand.”
5) Know who to talk to and reach out to them. Differentiate between what friends or family will be there in a trying time, vs. who’s a “good time friend.”
6) When all else fails, read funny motivational memes to get you moving. Humor is the best medicine (right after volunteering).
Do you have any favorite books, podcasts, or resources that most inspired you to live with a thirst for life?
There are so many books that I credit with helping me along my journey: “Eat, Pray, Love” “Codependency No More” “You Can Heal Your Life” everything by Steve Harvey, and music has been a huge inspiration. I started listening to positive music like Nahko and Medicine for the People, Wookiefoot, Satsang, Rebelution, and their lyrics have gotten me through some tough times.
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote” that relates to having a Joie De Vivre? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
“The time is now, for that is all we have.” — Nahko Bear
Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?
- I’m teaching storytelling workshops to help presenters, sales people, and fundraisers better share their stories.
- My story will also be featured in the upcoming Unstuck Happiness documentary and will help people deal with whatever challenges they are facing and create the life they’re meant to live.
-I’ll continue spreading my message of service because I truly believe that helping others helps us.
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. :-)
Easy! I want everyone to know that they are powerful and can change the world. The smallest action can make the biggest difference in someone’s life. The mere act of walking a dog at the shelter can make them more adoptable. Tutoring a child can change their life forever. Never think that because you can’t do everything that you can’t do anything.
Dr. Marina Kostina is a life and business fulfillment coach. She uses research and energy work to help professional women find their purpose and turn it into a profitable business. Dr. Kostina incorporates innovative marketing strategies and the creation of engaging, lucrative online courses to scale their businesses. As a result they enjoy what she describes as a “ravenous life” — a life filled with the passion, pleasure, playfulness and abundance that come naturally to those who dare to be authentic. Her book “Find the G-Spot of Your Soul” is available January 2018. Download a free gift from Dr. Kostina- an MP3 Meditation Album “Find The G –Spot Of Your Soul” and get unstuck.