Admittedly, unplugging from technology is a constant battle for me. As someone who is ‘all-in’ invested with my work, my brand, my audience, my peers, colleagues and potential clients – leaving messages un-acknowledged in my inbox, especially knowing how rapidly incoming they continually are, is something that unsettles me as does anything which symbolizes loose ends or unfinished business. I pride myself on my ability to multi-task and consider it an honour and a privilege to be characterized amongst my peers, as a top-performer – an influencer. I also know that credibility and positively maintaining ones professional reputation is founded on ones demonstrated ability to maintain and produce consistency – to meet deadlines, to return those messages and phone calls. As an entrepreneur, a coach, a mentor, a global radio show host/podcaster (just to cite a few of the hats I wear) – this is how I momentously grow and expand my business. I do not have a nine to five. I do not work within the confines of a cubicle. I do not have a boss hovering over me, micro-managing me or holding me accountable – that too, remains my ongoing responsibility with respect to exercising my due-diligence. My day to day business operations, and my connection to people – those I do current or future business with, around the world, and in all time zones is primarily wrapped up in my phone. This is where the majority of my opportunities for partnership and collaboration originates from. This is where initial conversations on social media converts to monetization for me, which as a single parent, is not a factor or a reality of my life I can unplug from as it is interconnected. Remaining a viable financial contributor to my children is synonymous with the degree I have to remain ‘on.’ In order for me to be present for them as they will ALWAYS remain my number one priority, I maximize my technology time when they are not with me – whether this be a result of them being in school, or with their Dad. I resume once they are in bed. I do whatever I can, whenever I can, and am thankfully very on top of my scheduling as one needs to be to keep it all effectively managed.
As someone who is equally committed to doing the work on myself as much as I am equally committed to scaling and leveraging my business, I have also come to believe and respectfully acknowledge within myself, how futile it is to expend wasted energies on emotions such as blame and shame. Like everyone else, I am continually doing my very best within the minimal infrastructure of supports I am operating within, in which to juggle (single) parenthood priorities with career obligations. I assume full responsibility and ownership for every aspect of my life. I choose to not live in the past. I choose to not compare my choices or lifestyle with anyone else. I fully accept and completely embrace my life exactly as it is. I choose not to idealize what would perceivably be easier if my circumstances were different for this is counter-intuitive thought processes, and changes nothing to my current reality. I love my life and am grateful for my life exactly as it is. I choose to make the best of every moment, of every day, regardless of time constraints, competing deadlines and priorities, or what my social media notifications and inbox messages reflect. I choose not to dwell on the past or fantasize about the future. I make no apologies to anyone for the decisions I solely have to make which is in mine and my family’s best interest. I am forever taking heed of all my decisions. I do personal inventory every single day. Recognizing I am only one person who is doing my best in both my personal and professional life is all I can demand of myself. Beating myself up, dialoguing negatively with myself, second-guessing the plethora of the on-the-spot decisions I am required to make as both a parent and as an entrepreneur is energetically a space I do not give myself permission to inhabit. I refuse to lose time and energies in this vain, especially when they are required elsewhere and in ways that are productively aligned with that which is beneficial and advantageous for my growth and development as a human being, a parent, and as a careerist.
I am proud that I am choosing to be the example to my two children of what it means to be hard-working, to establish consistent goals and to accomplish them as a result of massive action-taking. This is in fact the real world we all live in, and therefore, it is my belief that children of any generation benefit from bearing witness to seeing the correlation between applied efforts and achievable/tangible results. There is no disillusionment in my home or in my child-rearing, which would support the false beliefs or concepts that things you want or wish for in life are simply handed to you. Hard work in my home, however, does not come at the exclusion of family time being exactly that – family time. We are an active family. We are nature enthusiasts – we are outdoors as often as we can be whether it be on the hiking trails, at a park, or in our pool with a bunch of other children. We love crafts, building Lego, baking, drawing, play-dates, reading books, and discovering new adventures as often as we can. We work hard, and we play hard. When we work harder…we play even harder.
I have never hesitated to on occasion, and when necessary to do so,to both privately message and publicly post on social media – letting it be known when I am out of commission…to thank people for their patience with me, and to remind folks of the blocks of time I am scheduling myself to circle back so as to be accessible for telephone calls while offering my preset timelines for responding to individual messages. As long as I am consistently paying people that courtesy and maintaining effective lines of communication, it has been my experience that people are for the most part, very understanding, fair, and compassionate as they too can relate to daily busyness, and can appreciate the daily grind being what it is. I recognize, that not unlike myself, everyone is simply doing their very best with what they have to work with in any given moment. Once upon a time, I used to say that there were never enough hours in the day. Now…I say that there are never enough days in the week. I know I am not the only one who would echo those sentiments. For those of you who can consistently relate, please know you will have my continual support, understanding and patience! Do what you need to do, when you need to do it, for YOU, first and foremost!
Originally published at livingfearlesslywithlisa.com