What I have learned is that it is a disservice to “save” people. It is important that you allow those that you are leading space to grow, fail and excel.
From bankruptcy to multiple six figure earner, Shayla Boyd-Gill, the Family Freedom and Affluence Mentor, is an EXTRAORDINARY and PROVEN business mentor who shows family centered women entrepreneurs how to have it all — family, freedom and affluence– while doing what they love. She helps her clients to build lucrative and leveraged businesses so that they have the freedom to be with their family and make big money all at the same time, without the sacrifice.
Thank you so much for doing this with us! What is your “backstory”?
I’m a not so conventional mom of six children (five currently homeschooled) and wife of almost 22 years. I also am a thriving business mentor who loves to make money and transform lives. I left corporate America in 2003 after the birth of baby number three. Since then, I have owned several businesses and vowed to always to be in control of my journey in life.
Can you share the funniest or most interesting story that happened to you since you began leading your company?
I’m sure that my mother would agree that the funniest memory is me calling her in tears and threatening to quit every year for at least the first seven years in business. She would let me vent and then remind me that I could always return to work. Trust me, the tears and whining would end immediately. I made sure that I would not return to work — a baby every three years. No really, that was not on purpose. It just happened that way.
What was your biggest challenge to date either personally or professionally and how did you overcome it?
I have always had a challenge with asking for help. As a busy mom and wife, I am used to getting things done. When I started bringing on people to support me in my business, they were frustrated because I would continue to do everything. I eventually started using tracking documents and systems to reassure me that things would be completed by the responsible party. I could check it any time of day to see that there was progress. I surrendered and found peace.
What does leadership mean to you and how do you best inspire others to lead?
Leadership is a demonstration of guiding while allowing people to find their strengths and shine. I use this in the home and in the business. What I have learned is that it is a disservice to “save” people. It is important that you allow those that you are leading space to grow, fail and excel. A good leader will needs to also have excellent communication and listening skills. Need practice? Try active listening at home with your partner and/or kids. Be intentional.
None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?
I have to shout out my mother. She always stood behind my lavish ideas to be a business owner. She and my grandparents were proud of me for being a first generation graduate with an engineering degree. Every family wants to brag, right? I secured a project management job with a construction company and three years in I decided to resign. My mother did not flinch when I said that I was leaving because I wanted to spend time with my children and make money on my own terms. She actually motivated me to go after my dream and dared anyone to question my decision. She watched me make money, lose money, file for bankruptcy, create new ventures and press forward. She believed in me when I questioned everything about myself. I grew up hearing her say “dare to be different.”
Was it difficult to fit your life into your business/career and how did you do that?
My first business was a childbirth education and doula service. This worked beautifully for me initially as I could bring my baby to the classes. However, the challenge came at nights when a client would call in labor and my husband would need to be on baby duty. The schedule was unpredictable, but thankfully my husband believed in my vision and had flexibility with his job schedule. I experienced lots of guilt in the beginning because my children were young and I was trying to fit the social role of mothering. I quickly understood that our household was not normal. My family definitely got used to me being on the road and working the business, coming home exhausted, and then transitioning into being fully present once I was rested. I eventually shifted to business mentoring so that I could absolutely take back control of my life and be more present for the family while making big money.
Did you find that as your success grew it became more difficult to focus on the other areas of your life?
Absolutely! When you are laser focused on the growth phase of business and personal development, something usually will get less of your attention. I saw the decline in self care as I grew the businesses and nurtured the family. I can remember literally waking up one day and not even recognizing myself. As recently as this year I purposely restructured my days so that I am a priority. What I understand is that I can not continue to serve others if I do not take care of myself. This has resulting in me releasing 60 pounds in the last twelve months.
Can you share five pieces of advice to other leaders about how to achieve the best balance between work and personal life?
Let’s start with lowering the bar a little. I personally don’t believe that there is any such thing as work and life balance. This is a misnomer that makes people reach for something that is not possible. Here are five things that you can consider instead:
- Don’t expect to give equal energy to both life and business. You will need to mindfully distribute your energy where it is needed and most times it will not be equal.
- Be fully present where you decide to place your energy. For example, if you are suppose to be spending time with the children, make sure that you put the phone aside and engage without distraction.
- Make yourself a priority. Before you can split any of your energy, you have to take care of yourself. Think of the airplane instructions — put the oxygen mask on yourself first.
- Reward yourself often. If you spend all of your time chasing a big goal without celebrating small wins along the way, you are more likely to feel regret or even give up.
- Let go of perfection. Give yourself enough grace to do the best that you can do in life and business.
What gives you the greatest sense of accomplishment and pride?
I get the greatest sense accomplishment when I actually do what I say that I am going to do. The follow through game is everything.
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂
My movement will unite family centered women who have a dream to own a business to take the leap, make the money that they desire and create more freedom in their lives. No more using the kids as an excuse for not moving forward. No more waiting for the perfect time. A dream has be activated and we live in a world where it is easier than ever to do just that.
- What is the best way for people to connect with you on social media? You can find me on Facebook at /ShaylaBoydGill or Instagram at /shayla.boydgill