Lift Your Legacy: How to use your darkest moments as your greatest opportunity to be yourself with empowerment coach Lindsay Dam and Rabbi Jacob Rupp

“I overcame by going inward. I did a lot of healing, journaling, being very honest with myself about what I was creating in life for myself and soon to be son. I did a LOT of forgiveness work and ultimately came to a space of commitment to myself, my journey and my desires.” Lindsay Dam […]

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“I overcame by going inward. I did a lot of healing, journaling, being very honest with myself about what I was creating in life for myself and soon to be son. I did a LOT of forgiveness work and ultimately came to a space of commitment to myself, my journey and my desires.”

Lindsay Dam is a Spiritual Mentor and Healer for female entrepreneurs. Through healing and law of attraction mentorship, she helps women shift their subconscious beliefs and resonances to help them create a life and business that is beyond fulfilling, rewarding and prosperous.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! What is your “backstory”?

I have been a full time entrepreneur in the healing realm for over 13 years and have been studying and cultivating my own spiritual practice for 20 years. After getting pregnant from sexual assault and experiencing a wide array of trauma during my pregnancy I dove deeper than ever into my spirituality. I sold my previous brick and mortar business so I could jump into the online space to, have a greater impact on the world, make more income, and be a present mother to my son. Though I had no idea what I was going to do I continued my spiritual practices. Through trial and error I found myself making waves online, impacting hundreds of women, quadrupling my income and doing that while creating a life I had dreamed of for over 5 years. I have been able to continue to grow my business to the multi six-figure mark in 18 months. During this time holding true to my intention of working part time and being a presence in my son’s life. All, while being a single mom and helping other women overcome their own traumas so they can create a life that they are wildly passionate about.

Can you share the funniest or most interesting story that happened to you since you began leading your company?

The funniest thing that’s happened to me are the things I’m remembered for with my following. The relationships I build with my clients and followers is beyond rewarding and I am known as being the person who swears a lot, who talks about orgasms and how they can help you improve your life. My followers frequently create meme’s in my group or share with me their favorite meme’s that remind them of me. Truly the way in which I impact people unintentionally and the things I’m “known” for are hilarious.

I’m constantly in awe at how everything unfolds as I get bigger and more visible. As I lean into faith and the universe I do things I wouldn’t have ever imagined myself doing, and everything works out so miraculously. The goals I want to achieve, the results I have, the results my clients and followers have, it all comes together in the most miraculous ways… rarely the way in which I planned… but always so much more rewarding and fruitful.

Recently there was a thread in my FaceBook group where a woman stated “Anyone else walk around with Lindsay in her head saying ‘And how does that serve you to….?’ Multiple women replied with comments like “I always hear ‘just do the Dam thing’” “I hear ‘You’re welcome’” and “I hear her calling me on my bullsh@t. It’s nice to have a Lindsay on my shoulder”.

Opening up my feed to seeing this always makes me laugh and feel greatly fulfilled that this is what I get to do everyday.

What was your biggest challenge to date either personally or professionally and how did you overcome it?

My biggest challenge to date was getting pregnant from rape and working through the process of healing as I embarked upon single motherhood. During the first 6 months there were several traumas including being stalked, tremendous financial struggles (naturally), and discovering my father’s body after he had passed away unexpectedly.

I overcame it by going inward. I did a lot of healing, journaling, being very honest with myself about what I was creating in life for myself and soon to be son. I did a LOT of forgiveness work and ultimately came to a space of commitment to myself, my journey and my desires.

This experience is what put me on the path I’m on now to helping others. I am grateful for the lessons and the strength it gave me every day. Without it I wouldn’t have the lifestyle, the following, the business or the impact on others I have today.

What does leadership mean to you and how do you best inspire others to lead?

Leadership is the opportunity to rise up in front of others with the intent to inspire, guide, and mentor them to reach common goals or outcomes with the intention for it to result in the highest good for all involved.

I inspire others to lead by committing to being an example myself. I show up everyday for my people no matter how I feel. I share. I’m vulnerable. I show what it looks like to lead a spiritual life, to run a spiritual business, and to constantly do the inner work I teach on myself. The ugly and the beautiful. It all leads to the transformations we seek.

I inspire others to lead by showing them the courage, the bravery and the honesty it takes to commit to your desires and to improve your life, your thoughts, your vibrations and your inner stories. I share the scary. I share the fun. I share it all. The pain and the freedom of healing and of entrepreneurship. I am known for my authenticity and for doing things a certain way.

The best way there is through, — and that is what I show my people — is and how I inspire them to lead with heart and intent.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?

Truthfully the first person I would have to thank for supporting me along the way is my mom, Penny. She supported me with this wild vision of developing an online business even though I had no idea how.

She took me in with my infant son when I had no money, tons of debt and only a vision. Though she couldn’t see or understand how I was going to do it she supported me along the way. In fact, through every major leap of faith I’ve taken in my life — there have been 3 — she has always supported me and believed in me, especially in my own moments of doubt (we all have them).

There are two others I give credit to.

My late friend Zach Ross who — when I was 15 — encouraged me to do what I loved and develop a career in that, rather than listen to the expectations of others.

I used to give massages to everyone I knew. On my swim team, at high school parties and when hanging out with friends I was always giving a massage. I loved it and was good at it. One day while giving my friend Noah a massage with the oil my grandmother had just sent me for my birthday (my first massage oil!) I was contemplating the direction I wanted to go in life. Noah’s brother, Zach, who was 18 at the time looked at me and said “Lindsay, you always give everyone massages. You’re good at it and you love it. Why not get paid for something you love?” That conversation impacted the trajectory of my life. It was such a foreign concept that made me so excited!

I decided that day I was going to go to massage school as soon as I was old enough.

I was 19 when I had my first license to practice massage and bodywork and 23 when I started my first business. All thanks to Zach.

I also give credit to my business coach and mentor, Jasmine Ivy, whom over the last 18 months has been a constant supporter of mine. She has seen me through almost all of it and I am forever grateful for her constant cheer, support, belief in me, and the friendship we have developed.

Was it difficult to fit your life into your business/career and how did you do that?

For me I have always valued freedom. I value the ability to create my own schedule and to work when I want. In my first business I had less freedom given the brick and mortar business model though I still got to create it and mold it the way I wanted. With my current business I intentionally created it so I could have time and location freedom. Being a successful business owner has always been important to me, but being a presence to my son and being able to raise him and create memories with him during his youngest years is of utmost importance to me and that has always been a driving factor in my business model. There are moment I work late at night after he goes to bed for example, when I was writing my book or preparing for big Black Friday specials.

A large part of my marketing is life casting so I show what I’m up to in my personal life as an example for other mom/fempreneurs.

When my son isn’t with the nanny I have to be very intentional about not being on my phone all the time so we can bond. As with any business there are moments I’m on my devices more than normal but ultimately fitting your life into your business or career has to be a hard non negotiable.

If it isn’t for one of my clients, I would ask them “what void are you filling by constantly working?” to understand how we could shift things to find better balance and fulfillment in their lives.

To answer your question of how did I do that: I decided. And I stuck to it. Period.

Did you find that as your success grew it became more difficult to focus on the other areas of your life?

I found that as my success continues to grow I have to be more intentional about where my focus goes and how I can continue to create and nurture the freedom I have. I have been learning to delegate and outsource jobs that can be done by someone else, not an easy skill to learn as a recovering solopreneur and probably my most challenging 🙂

I focus on the tasks I love and that bring in the income while allowing support on the more menial tasks that don’t bring fulfillment or fun to me.

As I build my team I am able to continue to grow and scale without sacrificing life at home, relationships or down time.

Can you share five pieces of advice to other leaders about how to achieve the best balance between work and personal life?

  1. Allow time for YOU every single day. For me this includes meditation, journaling, prayer, exercise and finding stillness within. Time to connect and reset my mindset everyday is critical to continued growth and expansion in every area of life.
  2. Decide. Decide what your non-negotiables are and stick to them. No excuses. If you fall off one day, pick back up the next.
  3. Be Mindful. When you are with your kids or with your partner put your phone down. Connect. Be present. This allows you to really appreciate these moments and to nurture your commitment fully to the others in your life
  4. Find the fun. If something feels difficult or unfulfilling ask yourself whether or not this is really a necessary task. Can you accomplish your goals in a different way? Following the fun allows you to infuse your work with the same energy to create better results, and reduce stress levels.
  5. Make rest a priority. Even if it’s for half an hour. You can always find that. Enjoy a latte, go for a walk, take a nap, etc. However you rest make it a priority. Schedule it in if you have to. You’ll be much happier and end up being more efficient when you get back to work with fresh oxygen, newfound clarity and excitement.

What gives you the greatest sense of accomplishment and pride?

Seeing the ways in which my work helps people dramatically increase their lives, receiving the love letters, and watching them move forward in creating their version of dream life gives me utmost pride and fulfillment. I am thrilled that every day I get to do this work.

But also, seeing how far I’ve come and continue to grow is beyond humbling. To go from being on food stamps to making multiple six figures in 18 months is incredible. Witnessing first hand how much you can transform your life and the life of your family is intense, immensely rewarding and incredibly humbling.

Witnessing the results in the people who do this work, this inner work, who are committed to the shift and being able to see the positive transformations as a result of our time together is nothing short of miraculous. It brings me great pride everyday and fuels me with drive to continue moving forward.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

I am a healer. One of my deepest beliefs is that history repeats itself until it is healed and one of the most profound forms of healing I offer to my clients is the ability to heal their ancestors. To free them of ancestral patterns and traumas is beyond incredible. Currently with so much awareness from the #metoo movement and others like it many old wounds are being opened and exposed that haven’t been properly dealt with for men and women. If I could inspire a movement, and believe me I am currently working on that, is that in order to rewrite the future you have to heal from the past.

You get to create the life you desire. In order to rewrite your patterns and beliefs you have got to offer yourself and those before you the gift of healing. As you do you free everyone in your lineage and you prevent the same patterns from being carried forth to your children.

Change the future. Heal the past. And love yourself enough to do it.

What is the best way for people to connect with you on social media?

Facebook @

Women only FB group @

IG @

About the author: Jacob Rupp is a coach, author, speaker, podcaster, and rabbi. He is the founder of Lift Your Legacy, a community that helps people live a more authentic life.  He has a regular, syndicated column that appears in ThriveGlobal and Medium magazine. To learn more about him or to listen to the Lift Your Legacy podcast, search iTunes or visit his site:

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