Learn to be positive

Enjoy your life

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Sometimes I meet people and I find them to be quite difficult, easily upset or just plain awkward. I’ve been in the position where I find myself treading on eggshells around someone, scared to say anything for worry of offending them.


Individuals who show these kinds of tendencies often tend to struggle with their self-esteem. If somebody is struggling with an inferiority complex and believes they are not good enough, they may act out and demand for things to be done according to their beliefs and desires in an attempt to boost their own sense of self-importance. They will often be emotionally immature or even controlled by their emotions to an extent – they are unsure of how to deal with circumstances and people around them and so they view everything as a criticism or a conflict.

Regardless of the reasons behind this temperament, we know it’s not easy to tolerate or want to be around. It’s nigh on impossible to want to maintain a relationship with somebody who can take a well-meaning sentence, and, in their head, spin it into a mean-hearted, hurtful comment.

Some people live in their heads – yet they fail to realise that their head is a negative place. Their head has spent years playing tricks on them and turning reality into a scary world where everybody means you harm or offence. This is not any kind of foundation for forming healthy relationships.

Instead of getting so hung up on minor non-issues: ignored messages, a playful joke, a night alone – we just need to learn to smile and enjoy our lives.

Learning to be positive means learning to be happy – in doing this, we can form healthy relationships and make true, honest friends.

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