In a recent post I wrote about how numbers need to stop controlling our lives. Today I watched a TED talk by Chip Conley about measuring what makes life worthwhile. He showed this slide show, which I screenshot to put in this post.
When I was in San Francisco, my friend and I were walking around and we came across this guy who was blowing bubbles into the faces of children.
My friend said something like, “It warms my heart how happy this guy is from something so small.”
And it made me realize how true it was. Today I’m reminded of that, as I sit here unsure about where my next paycheck is going to come from. As I was applying for a job yesterday, the recruiters wanted to know my GPA, GRE and TOEFL scores.
What do they want from my TOEFL score?
I’ve been in English-speaking schools for three decades.
Yes I know speaking In Englishness. Will you be my friendship?*
The truth is, I did those tests ages ago. Yet I couldn’t help but ask, what on Earth are they going to extrapolate from that? Where I stand in respect to other people who sat in such a controlled environment to answer questions on a piece of paper?
How will they know that I would make people laugh until they said, “Stop it!I’m supposed to be pissed off right now. Don’t make me laugh.”How will they know that one of the common responses I get from talking to people is, “I really never thought about that”?
Maybe they’ll infer all that from my TOEFL scores.
Anyhow my point is, instead of making assumptions about people from 1 page and test scores on a job application system, give them a call, reach out to them on twitter, have a conversation with them and most importantly, listen to what your gut tells you about them.
And if you’re job hunting like I am, don’t lose hope. But also don’t feel shy about reaching out to people and putting yourself out there. Whether it is through a blog or on Linkedin, don’t hide yourself thinking, the job will come to me.
A job is an exchange of value.
Companies don’t run charities. They’re out there to make money, and if you give them enough value, they’ll take you on. But they need to know you exist somehow. So reach out to people, and let them know you’re in the market.
And remind them you’re charming, smart and witty.
You’re worthy. And don’t let others tell you the opposite.
Anyhow, I have to talk about this book I’m reading, Obstacle Is the way by Ryan Holiday. It’s such a beautifully written book. I’m savoring it slowly like ice cream on a summer day…or rather…summer night…after Maghrib, since it’s Ramadan and we spend the morning fasting.
I received yet another rejection today, and it didn’t even cause a flutter within me. Maybe because this was the third rejection, and I’ve been there before. But maybe it’s because I started reading Obstacle is the way, and I totally understand that what matters isn’t what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you.
*Please note that was misspelled on purpose.
Originally published at medium.com