After suffering from debilitating fibromyalgia, and learning how to heal myself naturally, it shaped the narrative of my story and gave me a launching pad to help people from. I firmly believe you’ll find your unique purpose through your life experience, and your most painful moments will help define your purpose and what is important to you.
Do you ever wake up in the morning feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, unchallenged, and have nothing to look forward to? It doesn’t have to be that way. One idea that I always advice my clients is the concept of “Stop pushing the pain away and see it as the guide to your life purpose”
As a society, we are hardwired to sit on our tush in a comfortable lethargy. I invite you to start EXPERIENCING your life, rather than observing it, getting used to the uncomfortable and finding the deepest inspirations in your pain. We grow from the dark much more and faster than we do from the light and often our deepest gifts (and the source of our passion, pleasure and joy) are located where it hurts the most. Life purpose is a waltz between pain, pleasure, play
For me, all my trials and tribulations resulted in the most incredible outcome- finding my life purpose and aligning my entire life around it. Once I did that my business took off, my lifestyle changed and, most importantly, I started living a passionate, joyful life. I started TRULY trusting myself. While before I outsourced my reasons for happiness outside of myself to online courses that promised to give me love overnight or make me rich in a click of a button, to gurus that were telling me how to live my life and lead my business, to magical objects or juju, now I use these means as supplementary help, not as my guide as I have found my own internal compass that is never wrong and is ALWAYS working for me.
As a part of our series interviewing experts on how to live a “ravenous life” — a life filled with the passion, pleasure, playfulness and abundance that come naturally to those who dare to be authentic, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jaya Jaya Myra, an internationally acclaimed author, motivational speaker, and creator of the Well Method. After healing herself naturally from debilitating fibromyalgia, Myra developed the Well Method to teach others how to live a healthy, fulfilled and successful life based on each person’s unique elemental composition. Her approach to wellness and purpose shows why one-size-fits-all solutions don’t work for everyone, and how to find what will work for you.
Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
Yes. About 12 years ago, I was diagnosed with debilitating fibromyalgia, which caused me to lose everything in my life. I declared bankruptcy, got divorced and even lost my job and my home. I was working as a research scientist at the time and was upset that Western medicine was not able to help me. I found ways to heal myself naturally and went on to build a career and brand around it. I’ve recently launched The Well Method to show other people what I did and how to use natural and mind body spirit principles in a way that leads to real world results for health, wellbeing and fulfilled living.
What does it mean for you to live “on purpose”? Can you explain? How can one achieve that?
For me, it means living my life’s purpose, being clear on what that is, and using it to make other people’s lives more fulfilled and meaningful. Being mindful and conscious comes down to understand where reaction patterns and beliefs come from. What are your triggers, and why? Eliminating triggers so you can be more responsive in the present moment is the key to success.
Do you have an example or story in your own life of how your pain helped to guide you to finding your life’s purpose?
Yes. After suffering from debilitating fibromyalgia, and learning how to heal myself naturally, it shaped the narrative of my story and gave me a launching pad to help people from. I firmly believe you’ll find your unique purpose through your life experience, and your most painful moments will help define your purpose and what is important to you.
The United States is currently rated at #18 in the World Happiness Report. Can you share a few reasons why you think the ranking is so low?
Yes, absolutely. People don’t take enough time away from work and lack a real sense of work-life balance. People don’t know how to destress, reduce anxiety, depression, anger or sorrow naturally. People have not prioritized finding and living their purpose, but instead get caught up in day to day so much that it’s no longer about meaning, but in paying the bills. This is all a recipe for disaster.
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?
I’ve written a best-selling book, now published in 10 languages that helps people cultivate happiness and wellbeing in their lives. I use the opportunities I get on radio and TV to inspire people and show practical, simple things people can do to make boost mood and improve quality of life. I use social media as a way to connect with people and send out inspirational content each day. Basically, it’s in both the large and small things, and using every platform available to you to make change and inspire others to succeed.
What are your 6 strategies to help you face your day with exuberance, “Joie De Vivre” and a “ravenous thirst for life”? Can you please give a story or example for each?
- Wake up daily before sunrise. This has a powerful effect on mindset and mood.
- Create a daily to-do list at the start of each day. Accomplishing goals is great for mindset and motivation.
- Get out and move. Even if it’s just a walk, movement is important for physical wellbeing and mental health.
- Food for mood — incorporate mood boosting foods into your diet like turmeric, ginger, cacao, radishes, hummus and others.
- Do at least 1 thing daily that you enjoy, that’s just for you.
- Sit and breathe for at least 5 minutes. No thoughts, just breath.
Do you have any favorite books, podcasts, or resources that most inspired you to live with a thirst for life?
No. I learned directly from people and not from books. The one on one connection was important to me.
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote” that relates to having a Joie De Vivre? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
Be the change you want to see in the world. This was important on so many levels, but it basically taught me not to glorify or admire what I value, but to become it instead. We tend to put things on a pedestal instead of pursuing them — this has always been my reminder to be what I most want, and not to simply admire what I want.
Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?
Yes. I’m giving a TEDx talk soon, and I’m launching 2 online courses to help more people succeed. I’m also writing my second book. The online courses and book will enable me to work with more people and show them exactly what I’ve done to become successful, and help people find and live their purpose.
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂
To be uniquely you. To understand that health, wealth and purpose comes from clearly knowing yourself and what makes you “you” instead of listening to what other people or society thinks is right. We need people who can trust themselves enough to become leaders and motivators and challenge the status quo of life, and that doesn’t happen until someone knows themselves and really believes in what they have to offer the world.
About The Author:
Dr. Marina Kostina is a life and business fulfillment coach. She uses research and energy work to help professional women find their purpose and turn it into a profitable business. Dr. Kostina incorporates innovative marketing strategies and the creation of engaging, lucrative online courses to scale their businesses. As a result they enjoy what she describes as a “ravenous life” — a life filled with the passion, pleasure, playfulness and abundance that come naturally to those who dare to be authentic. Her book “Find the G-Spot of Your Soul” is available January 2018. Download a free gift from Dr. Kostina- an MP3 Meditation Album “Find The G –Spot Of Your Soul” and get unstuck.