America is becoming less mindful with their TV-specific screen time. Due to streaming services, we have so many options available at our disposal even if we feel lukewarm about all of them. I’ve seen too many instances where people sit down to watch television for the sake of watching television. The same situation unfolds… you mindlessly scroll through one of your streaming services until something that looks somewhat interesting you appears. You click it and watch it, feeling half-invested for most of the time. Back in the days of Blockbuster, we mindfully selected a movie to watch. We either went to the store with a movie in mind or spent time closely considering our options before making a final decision. A more mindful relationship with TV-time results in more fulfilling, better-spent free time. Don’t choose to watch TV just because it’s there. Choose it because there’s a program or a movie really calling out to you to be watched.
I had the pleasure of interviewing Kylie Kates. Kylie is the Community Manager for CableTV.com. She helps the brand with creating well-rounded content for their website, fostering more brand awareness, and acting as a liaison between the brand and the media.
Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
Sometimes you can’t explain how you got to where you are, but choose to trust the process. I’ve spent my entire time in school being divided between right-brained and left-brained subjects. This job allows me to exist somewhere between those two extremes.
What does it mean for you to live “on purpose”? Can you explain? How can one achieve that?
Purposeful living means placing intention behind every part of your day. You can place intention behind how you spend your free time, how you prioritize your wants and needs, how you psychologically frame situations (especially ones causing adversity), how you interact with the world around you. Anyone can achieve more purposeful living if they choose to self-assess in that manner.
Do you have an example or story in your own life of how your pain helped to guide you to finding your life’s purpose?
Absolutely. A couple of years ago I felt terribly unfulfilled for a multitude of reasons. That unfulfillment led to a lack of self-love and an inability to show up for myself, which translated the same way for everyone around me (friends, family, etc.). When I realized I needed to make a change in my life, I put all the energy I could into fostering a life for myself that would feel more aligned with what I wanted and needed. I found a more fulfilling job, I regularly attended yoga, and through other means I was able to generate more self-love that would make it possible to show up for myself and others again. When you assign yourself more purpose, it’s amazing how the road of positivity unfolds itself in front of you.
The United States is currently rated at #18 in the World Happiness Report. Can you share a few reasons why you think the ranking is so low?
I think we’re largely unaware of the habits we have that make us unhappy. Or if we are aware, we’re unwilling to do anything to change it. In such an interconnected world, we spend a lot of time with our heads down, buried in a screen, vicariously living other people’s’ lives. And in the moments where we’re preoccupied inside of a screen, we’re missing the present moment. By not living in the present moment, you are not giving yourself the chance to learn from and connect with people around you (especially those who are different than you). Maintaining a demeanor of true presence is certainly a road to happiness.
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?
I believe there is a lot of success in self-love. The act of self-love is much more easily said than done. However, if you can learn to truly love yourself, it means you are fully showing up for yourself every day. And if you can show up for yourself, you can more easily and readily show up for those around you. That alone brings a ton of goodness to the world.
What are your 6 strategies to help you face your day with exuberance, “Joie De Vivre” and a “ravenous thirst for life”? Can you please give a story or example for each?
I have a couple of thoughts on this topic that stems from a more technology-based point of view.
1) We’re all guilty, but — spend more of your time with less of your technology. It’s likely you spend time around screens for work. Some of us pick up freelance work on top of our normal jobs, too. Work aside, we have televisions to watch, smartphones screens to peer into, etc. Our blue light consumption is higher than ever before with no sign of regression. While a good portion of our blue light time is inescapable, I invite society at large to find ways to cut away at your personal blue light time. Start by finding meaningful parts of your day to abandon your phone. Running a couple errands that don’t require your phone? Leave it on the charger. Goin’ for a hike? Take your camera instead of your camera phone. Spending time with friends? Ditch the phone — your best company is directly in front of you.
2) America is becoming less mindful with their TV-specific screen time. Due to streaming services, we have so many options available at our disposal even if we feel lukewarm about all of them. I’ve seen too many instances where people sit down to watch television for the sake of watching television. The same situation unfolds… you mindlessly scroll through one of your streaming services until something that looks somewhat interesting you appears. You click it and watch it, feeling half-invested for most of the time. Back in the days of Blockbuster, we mindfully selected a movie to watch. We either went to the store with a movie in mind or spent time closely considering our options before making a final decision. A more mindful relationship with TV-time results in more fulfilling, better-spent free time. Don’t choose to watch TV just because it’s there. Choose it because there’s a program or a movie really calling out to you to be watched.
Do you have any favorite books, podcasts, or resources that most inspired you to live with a thirst for life?
Everyone can benefit from reading a Brene Brown book (any of them, really).
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote” that relates to having a Joie De Vivre? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
“We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated with purpose.” This quote is so gorgeous and speaks for itself.
Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?
I’m working on a personal side project right now that’s based around photojournalism. People love being featured, they love talking about themselves, and the best part is the audience living inside this engaged demographic loves reading. I’ve created a platform to allow people to openly love and adore other people.
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂
Embracing your weirdest, truest self. Say the things that sound stupid. Laugh with strangers. It’s amazing how similar we all are and how great it feels to break away from the standard of “normal.” Normal is painfully boring.
About The Author:
Dr. Marina Kostina is a life and business fulfillment coach. She uses research and energy work to help professional women find their purpose and turn it into a profitable business. Dr. Kostina incorporates innovative marketing strategies and the creation of engaging, lucrative online courses to scale their businesses. As a result they enjoy what she describes as a “ravenous life” — a life filled with the passion, pleasure, playfulness and abundance that come naturally to those who dare to be authentic. Her book “Find the G-Spot of Your Soul” is available January 2018. Download a free gift from Dr. Kostina- an MP3 Meditation Album “Find The G –Spot Of Your Soul” and get unstuck.