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James B. Rutland, Baton Rouge, on Things Socially Intelligent People Do Differently

What is social intelligence? People with social intelligence understand how to work with others and interact with them very well. Their social intelligence is higher than others because of several traits:  They Listen More Than They Speak Socially intelligent people understand one of the most difficult parts of interacting: to listen more than to speak. […]

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What is social intelligence? People with social intelligence understand how to work with others and interact with them very well. Their social intelligence is higher than others because of several traits: 

They Listen More Than They Speak

Socially intelligent people understand one of the most difficult parts of interacting: to listen more than to speak. This is one of the fastest and easiest ways to get people to like you.  Socially intelligent people grasp this often over-looked aspect of human behavior. How so? They ask questions when engaged in a conversation with others. Most people are too busy thinking about what they are going to say next instead of truly listening, but socially intelligent people are fully present during their interactions.

They Withhold Judgement

People with high social intelligence are also usually some of the most respectful people. Throughout their day as they hold doors, wait in lines, and generally exist, they withhold judgment of others. Why? Highly socially intelligent people understand that everyone matters. People pick up on this and respond very well to it, mostly because it is so far from the norm. 

They observe and interpret someone’s nonverbal behavior

Emotions and one’s mental state is communicated less by words and more by body language. People with high social intelligence understand the body language of others. For example, a person with normal social intelligence may not notice that someone is disengaged in conversation. People with high social intelligence will pick up on these nonverbal cues.

They understand that people’s behavior is governed by multiple factors

Everyone is going through things in their lives: personally, professionally and otherwise.  Socially intelligent people understand this and do not take someone’s present behavior as a reaction to the immediate stimulus. They understand that someone’s reaction could be due to multiple outside factors that have nothing to do with the actual situation at hand. 

Socially intelligent people are good listeners; they withhold judgment, observe nonverbal behavior and understand that people are complicated. Because they do these things so much better than most people, they are some of the best people to know and make some of the best employees!

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