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It’s right in front of you.

All you have to do is open your eyes, and you will see it.

I sat on one side of the room, as my friend sat on the other.

What started off as a casual conversation slowly turned into both of us uncovering elements of her past, unshared memories, moments of mental and physical abuse.

I proceeded to do what I do best, ask questions.

But, not just any questions, questions that I genuinely wanted answered.

There was no agenda; I simply wanted to learn more about her as a human being.

I wanted to create a space where she felt a sense of belonging and connection.

As a friend of mine once said, “You don’t always need to know the how, you just need to know where to start.”

This case was not any different, as I didn’t need to know how we could potentially impact each other; we just had to start the conversation.

It didn’t take long before I could sense the energy within the room shift.

The air around us felt lighter.

I felt more relaxed, and free to communicate easily.

Tears began to stream down her face, as she continued to share about her past, especially the time spent with her father.

I asked, “What hurts you the most?”

As she continued to share her story, I began to see her words transform her pain.

The whole week prior to this moment taking place, I was planning our event, “Turn Your Pain Into A Powerful Message,” searching for the “perfect” venue for this event. And it was a challenge.

Yet, what this moment made me realize was that the “perfect” venue was right in front of me, a safe space between two people who felt comfortable and vulnerable enough to explore some of their deepest realities without being judged.

In that moment I could see clearly that these kinds of experiences are full of beauty.

It helped me understand the importance of slowing down, not chasing that unreasonable target I set for myself and to stop thinking that I am only “three feet away from gold.”

Because the truth is I have found the gold.

It is always right in front of me, including in this moment where the two of us were able to connect on a deep level of understanding and compassion.

The venue is what you make of it.

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Oleg Lougheed is the host of the Overcoming Odds Podcast, where you get a glimpse into the stories of individuals who have overcome adversity, suffering, and struggle in achieving their personal success.

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