It’s Okay to Be a Fly On The Wall

Everybody is in it to win it and don’t expect to just go through life thinking that success will be handed to you on a silver platter...

Aim High, Fly Higher
Aim High, Fly Higher

With so much competition in markets that are commonly over-saturated, it’s easy to get discouraged and feel like you’re not good enough. The stress weighs down on you even harder when you have something to prove. This world is marked by fierce players, so it’s important to have a winning strategy. Everybody is in it to win it and don’t expect to just go through life thinking that success will be handed to you on a silver platter. Often times, you’ll find yourself playing the role of the underdog. You’re going to be overlooked, undermined, and underestimated. People won’t be so quick to listen to you tell them how talented you are. You have to show them. Sometimes we let impatience get the best of us and try to rush the process. But the important thing to know is that everything comes in due time. You may not see it just yet, but good things are going to happen if you just let them play out the way they are supposed to. In my experience, the people who you wanted so badly to impress are in no position to help you get to where you really need to be anyway, contrary to what they let on. Plus, they have their own agendas. If you’re not too hasty, you’ll come to find out that you’re much better off without them and you’ll save yourself a lot of dead ends and regrets. And let’s face it, there are roughly 300 million people in the US alone. If they don’t appreciate what you have to offer, then so what? Move on and keep doing your thing. There’s always someone watching. Don’t go chasing waterfalls just to invite people with ulterior motives in your life. Instead, let your talent speak for itself so that the right people can find and support you.

It’s also okay to feel a certain way when you see your peers excelling while you’re still stuck at first base. But don’t let that get to you. The important thing to focus on is what you’re going to do to fix that. Certainly, holding a grudge and resenting them won’t help your case at all. In situations like this, be happy for them, show your support, and most importantly, pay attention. That’s not being fake, it’s called confidence. If you don’t have it, then you’re destined to fail.

I used to watch X-Factor a lot when I was younger. One thing I always noticed is that a lot of times, the last player would end up winning a particular challenge. If you see where I’m going with this, then you’ll understand that sometimes it’s necessary to be the fly on the wall, observe, and take mental notes. That’s the strategy. You get to see your peers go before you and catch everything as it plays out. From this point of view, you’ll see how they maneuver, the steps they took to get to where they are, and what mistakes they made; if you’re smart, then you’ll be able to take their formula and create a much better equation.

Once again, everything comes in due time. Know your worth and trust your talent. As long as you believe in yourself, work hard, network, and most importantly, stay humble. You’ll get to where you want to be in life and you may even find yourself surpassing all of the people who did everything in their power to shut you down.

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