It’ not about you!

How focussing on others can eliminate the fear and self-doubt you feel about starting your new business.

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I often hear from the women I speak to that they’re scared of getting started with their business ideas because they hear that small voice at the back of their minds telling them, ‘you’re not good enough! Who the heck do you think you are? Who’d want to listen to you?’

In short, they feel they’ll be judged. I get it! You’re human and it’s so natural to have fear. It’s one of our most primal feelings and it keeps us safe. But, we’re not living in the wild anymore. We don’t have to fear for our lives because there’s a Mammoth running after us. You’re ok!

There’s an amazing quote that I love that describes fear for me beautifully.

‘Fear is just excitement without breath’

If you can see fear in this way, it’s not as scary. Fear can be expansive. That fluttery butterfly feeling you get inside when you’re scared but really excited too like when you’re going on a first date or it’s you first day in a new job. It feels scary but you wouldn’t let that feeling stop you from going on the date or starting that new job would you?

If you’re feeling scared about starting your business or getting more visible in a business you already have, then please know that this fear is EXPANSIVE! Growth is on the other side. I promise you!

When you push outside of your comfort zone and show the world you’re serious about this idea you have, things start to move and click into place in your favour.

Always remember that when you’re spending time thinking about how scared you are and telling yourself you’re not good enough, this is precious time you could be spending serving others.

When you focus your energies 100% on the people you want to serve and your potential new clients, then you won’t have the room to feel scared anymore because you’ll see that it’s not about you. It never was. You wanted to start your business to serve others.

The experiences you’ve had, the talents, skills and messages you have need to be shared to help others. Think about the person in your life that has had the biggest positive impact on you with what they know. Just stop for a moment to think about what your life would be like if they’d never shared their message with you? How would your life be different?

The ripple effect you can create by sharing your gifts with the world (or just with one person) can be so far reaching you have no comprehension just yet. But you will. I promise. If you remember it’s not about you. It’s always about those you serve.

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