“Let yourself feel awake, peaceful, and ready for your day before you reach for your phone.”
I had the pleasure of interviewing Morgan Sheets, a certified wellness coach and woman on a mission to live well, be well, and do good in the world and support others to do the same. Morgan specializes in coaching clients who have created external success but lack inner fulfillment, feel frustrated, deeply disconnected from themselves and stuck in patterns that keep them mentally and emotionally unwell to feeling good again from the inside out.
Life shaped me to do the job that I do today and I chose to answer the calling and create a living and lifestyle around helping others heal and step out of dis-ease and into well-being.
Beginning from a very young age, I experienced situations in life that were stressful for me. These experiences seemed to continue non-stop until my mid 20’s or so. I didn’t know how to manage the stress, stressors, or emotions and it made my body and mind become dis-eased. For about a decade I struggled with anxiety, depression, PTSD, chronic fatigue, nerve sensitivity, migraine headaches and a sense of overwhelming despair that there was something wrong with me and there was something wrong with the world. Despite trying many methods and avenues to attempt to heal my body and mind, it took me until I was 30 to finally understand what was happening in my body and mind and to discover what I call my well-being blueprint. After healing my own body and mind, I decided I wanted to help others do the same and put all I experienced in life — both the dis-ease and trauma and the subsequent journey to well-being to use so I could be of service to help others do the same. I didn’t want other people to be lost and stuck and having to do the endless research that I did to get where I am today. I also wanted all I’ve learned, experienced, transformed and overcome to be of value to the world. I spent a decade reading books trying to crack the code and understand the reason why I felt so dis-eased in body, mind and soul. I’d like to spare others the same lengthy journey. And show that it’s possible to be highly sensitive, empathic, intuitive and also live out in the world, create external success and be a high achiever.
Career wise I took a path from model/actress to marketing director for my family’s business to my own massage therapy business to then becoming a wellness and life coach. When you look at my journey from what I studied in college to my work experience and personal experience, it’s clear I was being shaped for a calling. Of course, I didn’t know that as I was going through all those steps. It only became clear in hindsight. Everything I’ve done and been and experienced prepared me for the role I’m in today and the harmony of it all is so inspiring to me. My college degree was in electronic media production and both in college and my career as a marketing director showed me that I’m very electronically sensitive and that for my own well-being I have to limit and manage how I use technology.
I think the most interesting story is how I got into this career. Life really called and led me to it. I had a neighbor that lived two houses over from me where I used to live. He was in very poor health and had been let go from his job as a truck driver because of how bad his health was. They wouldn’t let him drive anymore. One day, I sat on his front porch with him and started talking to him about his health and helped him to see that things could change and told him exactly how. He was so grateful he said he had to pay me because I was more helpful than the doctors he was seeing. I said pay whatever that information is worth to you and he gave me $40. That was my first coaching client before I even knew being a coach was a profession. Before I moved, he was able to walk again and had lost about 100 lbs.
The second nudge to set me on my path was louder. I was at a workshop and talking to another attendee and he asked me if I was a life coach and I said no. He said, I think you are one and you don’t know it. I’m a coach and you just coached me. This conversation led me to look up holistic wellness coaching and I found out there are indeed people in the world who coach others on whole life well-being — mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. And so I began my journey to certification and creating a career out of coaching others and finally found a container to hold my innate gifts and talents, life experiences and passions and to help others and create a living from it.
I’ve begun taking the first steps to write a book and would like to dedicate more time and focus to writing it this winter. I’m teaching a course now for other service based entrepreneurs on how to get their message in the media. I’m really excited about that and am looking to grow the course and offer it to a wider audience. There’s so many people with such great wisdom, wonderful experiences they’ve created and unique businesses that just don’t know how to get their story out in a big way. And I’ve found, in my experience, media is hungry for people like that and I’m excited to connect them. Aside from that, Q4 for me is about becoming more accessible to people who can’t afford 1:1 coaching with me through offering group programs, workshops and mini classes and webinars. I’d also like to cultivate some brand partnerships and use my platform more to highlight products, services, hotels and resort experiences that foster well-being.
In my experience, with myself and clients, I’ve found that too much screen time correlates with an increase in fatigue, irritability, and a decrease in ability to focus and concentrate. Too much screen time can create a physical stress in our bodies and the exposure to the blue light can even start disrupting our hormones. In addition, when you add in the mental toll that too much time on social media can bring, then too much tech can also trigger anxiety, self-loathing, depression and feeling bad about life and society in general.
It also creates a disturbance in our energy field. I know when I spend too much time on my phone or at my computer, my energy becomes very scattered and dissipated and my field feels weak.
Personally, I keep my phone on silent the majority of the time to avoid being disturbed by my phone. I used to ignore all robocalls and now I answer the phone sometimes, ask to be removed from the list if I can and then I block the number. This helps, some. Robocalls aren’t in my area of expertise, so I can’t offer much more advice than that.
I think it’s important to decide how much of your life per day you feel is worthy of spending on social media, then focus on setting timers and being conscious of limiting your time to that. I’d also recommend only checking into social media during certain times, instead of checking it any time you have a free moment. Also, turn off all the notifications on your phone. There’s very little we need to be aware of immediately as it happens. So much peace can be created simply by eliminating those pesky notifications that capture our awareness. Also, it’s important to consider the impact it has when we spend more time cultivating digital relationships versus in person relationships. Social media is great for keeping up with interesting articles and information, seeing what your friends and family are up to and also for following people you admire and getting ideas and inspiration. It should never be a replacement though for cultivating “real life” relationships. Even screen time with those you know in real life can’t compare to in person time.
It’s also important to remember that social media isn’t meant for a person to share every detail of their lives. People are only showing what they desire to share, both good and bad. It’s simply a small reflection of who someone is as a person. It’s okay to not share everything on social media, there’s a lot of value to intimacy in personal relationships and having the privacy of keeping experiences to those who you experience them with.
I invite people to ask themselves what they are needing in their morning, and create a morning routine around that. Clients often come to me feeling so much pressure to do what they hear a morning routine “should” be like and they think they need to have a gratitude list, journal, read, and exercise in the morning and it’s not true. What a person needs to do is ask what they need to start their day off well, what do they need to feel well mentally and emotionally, then do that.
I would say, let yourself feel awake, peaceful, and ready for your day before you reach for your phone. You want to feel grounded within yourself, before connecting with the outside world.
This is my favorite quote and it goes along with this topic in an energetic sense. It may seem a strange life lesson quote, but this quote has had a profound effect on how I live my life.
Nikola Tesla — ‘If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.’
I hope that I’m starting my movement now. I’d love to reach the whole world and share with them how to know their own individual well-being blueprint and how to listen to their own mind, body and spirit for guidance on how to live well and be well. I think people are inundated with wellness advice and programs that aren’t in alignment with who they are. The reality is that there is a lot of individuality and complexity in the human body and there simply is not a one size fits all program. That’s why I like to help people discover the characteristics of their own mind, body and spirit and to give them concrete evidence and guidance on how to live life in alignment with that.
I dream of going on a nationwide tour and speaking to schools and community centers and churches. Wherever large people can congregate and empower them with the information on how to discover their well-being blueprint.
They can follow me on Instagram at livebedogood. Or send me a friend request or follow me on Facebook via my profile, Morgan Sheets.
Originally published at medium.com