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Is This Relationship Going Anywhere?

It is important to discuss your relationship periodically

The two of you have been together for a couple of months, maybe even a couple of years, and have reached the point where you are comfortable, and yet your relationship seems to be stuck in a rut. A relationship often heads towards serious commitment and in many cases, to marriage. Is your relationship heading somewhere or has just hit a pause? Usually people ask themselves this question in two scenarios, either when the relationship is going through a rough phase or when one or both partners are not really happy and excited in the relationship. 

A Rough Patch

Each one of us has wondered if our relationship is indeed going anywhere, especially when you are going through a difficult patch. A relationship cannot continue at the emotional high at which it began, and difficulties are part of the package. Decide what it is that is making you question if the relationship is going anywhere. When your life together seems to be full of challenges, then perhaps you need to communicate your feelings with your partner and give it a fresh start. 

Most of the time, we put in a lot of effort into romancing our love interest at the start of the relationship. Slowly, as we get comfortable in the security blanket that the relationship provides, we stop putting in so much time and effort. Everyone likes attention and wants to feel loved and appreciated. Without the romance in the relationship, it is understandable that it seems like the relationship is stagnating or on a downward slide. Waking up to the tell tale signs of discontent may give you enough time and chance to restart the fire. Don’t just stop at taking a weekend away together, but make a genuine effort to add to each other’s lives on a daily basis. It doesn’t take much work or money to tell your mate that you love them. Start with leaving a love note on the refrigerator or the bathroom mirror, call him or her at work to ask how the day is going and to let them know that you cannot wait to get home to be together. 

Time to Move On

Are you holding on to your partner only because it feels like a secure place to be? Too many people hold on to relationships that aren’t going anywhere because they have become so comfortable in the security, and are afraid to let go and start looking for someone all over again. If this is the case, then you need to call it quits as soon as possible, for a relationship that does not provide what both partners need is bound to go sour soon. It is better to part ways now rather than delaying it until later when it could turn ugly. 

It is quite possible that you still love your partner, but are not feeling the passion and emotion that you would want in a romantic relationship. You need to communicate your feelings and discuss the situation with your mate. Often people find it difficult to let go of a relationship because of the emotions and time invested in it. However, if you have drifted apart and there doesn’t seem to be much that can add spice back to the relationship, then it is better to move on. 

People grow as individuals and not just as a couple and at times, you may want different things from life and from the relationship. Therefore, if you are ready for a commitment but your partner is shying away from the very mention of it, then after awhile, it is natural that you want to move on. Time changes people and their priorities. Sadly, sometimes the pace for you and your partner may be different and you may both want different things. It is important that you both discuss often whether your relationship is following the path you want.

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