Introducing Nigel

Nigel is my inner talk, my stress, my anxiety and my worry.

He is my protector.

He looks out for my safety.

He can be a bit dramatic.

He tells me how I can do better.

He rarely says well done (we are working on this).

I sometimes let him take over and lead the day.

He is a perfectionist.

He loves to do lists (and will talk about all the things that should be on it when I am trying to get to sleep).

He likes ideas and tends to procrastinate.

He is my worst critic.

He is there for me in a crisis (he is great in a crisis).

He is so good in a crisis sometimes he tries to create them.

He questions me.

He helps me relate with others.

He is my self-care and self-preservation.

He can be a bit of an A-Hole.

He means well.

He tells me I am an imposter.

With patients and consistency he can be reasoned with.

He has a fear of failure and rejection.

Sometimes we are in harmony, most of the time we are bickering and the odd time we have a blazing row (I am getting better at winning).

He can be a glass half empty type but with a gentle reminder is getting better at seeing things differently.

I have had a habit of ignoring him completely in the past.

He needs to be listened to and reasoned with.

He isn’t always loud, just chattering away in the background.

He has a habit of going from 0–100 on 0.3 seconds if I don’t listen to the chatter.

His favourite sayings start with ‘ you should have’, I told you’, ‘Why did you’, ‘why didn’t you just’. ‘They will’

Nigel is my inner talk, my stress, my anxiety and my worry.

Get ready to see more of him…

#nigel #innertalk #stress #talkaboutstress #stresscoach

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