Adam: Thanks again for taking the time to go behind the brand. First things first, though, what is something about you that the many people who follow you don’t know?
Nick: I put it all out there but I take a mysterious approach and I leave people wanting more. I guess if you only know of me from my show, you may not know about how much I crave knowledge and bettering myself and others. I have a bachelors degree in English but I will be obtaining my Psychology master degree soon. I write and reflect almost everyday and this allows me to explore the questions of the point of all of this and how to have the most happiness and fulfillment.
Adam: How did you get here? How did you become an influencer? What is the inside story?
Nick: When I originally started gigoloing I thought I would just be meat and entertainment for women. It has become much more than that. I put myself in a position as someone who needed to have some answers and my followers and clients inspired me to get them. I never realized just how lost and confused most of us are until I became a person that people felt comfortable to open up to. Most of the systems of our world attempt to make us weak and pathetic so we have to feed off of them. They work. I’ve yet to meet someone who doesn’t struggle and few people have struggled as much as I did most of my life. I used to think it was necessary and unavoidable. Everyone is born an addict, with “ADHD” and lacking emotional control. My goal is to prove to as much of the world as possible just how much control and power we are capable of.
Adam: What advice do you have for those interested in working with influencers? How do you decide who to work with?
Nick: I can tell where someone is on their journey after a few brief words. Most people are boring and do very little to change that. My #1 rule with my “Wake The F*** Up” Skypes I do is, “you may not bore me. I’ve heard and used every excuse. I’ve battled everything that you are battling. I will teach you how to fight but I will no longer fight for you. You choose if you are going to fight or roll over. If people choose to roll over, you can only encourage them to take better care of themselves to increase their cognitive function so they can see the horrible decisions they make. Do not roll over and expect to have value.
Adam: What advice do you have for those interested in becoming influencers?
Nick: It’s a long road of self discovery and then you must develop your abilities to effectively communicate. Do not attempt to influence anyone until you have much figured out. We all want to help and influence other people in positive ways, but one of the biggest problems of the world is people who attempt to pass on knowledge before they are ready such as, people who have children before they have anything to teach them. These are people who give bad advice and make life more challenging for themselves and others. It takes a hell of a lot more than reading a couple books. You must dig deep, you must spend countless hours reflecting and meditating and you must be continually experimenting upon yourself.
Adam: What has being an influencer taught you about branding and marketing? What are your three best marketing and branding tips?
Nick: 1. You must create something that has a special, original, refreshing and creative voice. Nobody wants to hear you repeat what’s already out there. You need to put in the work and time that allows this. People always want to run with their first idea in the beginning stages and it’s never as good as it could be. It takes so much devotion and time to develop an idea to be great.
2. You will always know if you have something you can run with and develop. If there is any question if it isn’t, it isn’t. Stop spit-balling. Stop trying. Trying is not doing. Take better care of yourself so you’re able to be more decisive and efficient. You’re not able to open up the full capabilities of your mind if you don’t take immaculate care of yourself. Stop selling yourself short.
3. Own your approach and decisions. You need to get to a place where other people’s feedback doesn’t concern you. Stop asking random people and taking surveys and spend that time thinking about the best outcome. We focus way too much on the negative, AKA, the ignorant. Every situation and problem you encounter has multiple ways of ending. You need to put yourself in a position where you’re able to solve the equation and put together the puzzle pieces on your own to create the best outcome. Continue to develop your brand. If you put in the appropriate work to have some success, there is a reason why you are there. Have more faith in yourself. Once again, this takes much time but it needs to be a goal.
Adam: Who are the best leaders you have been around and what have you learned from them? What do you believe everyone should know about leadership?
Nick: I, unfortunately, haven’t had much positive influence or “leadership” outside of books. My parents had me at way too young of an age and mindset. Like most parents, they had nothing to teach. We live in a world where there are very few people who have put in the work to become someone who can effectively communicate inspiration and motivation or lead. We all hold the answers but it takes someone dedicated to be able to help you see through the smoke.
Adam: What are your hobbies and how have they shaped you?
Nick: If you’re not continually challenging yourself with great magnitude, you are failing. You are losing and you are dying. We must crave knowledge and evolution. If you do not, you have no place here. There isn’t a “hobby” or skill I have yet to understand and excel at including, almost every sport, martial art and game. Not because I am “special” or born gifted, but because I have committed myself to and I do not accept failure as an ending.
Adam: Is there anything else you would like to share?
Nick: Everything I say, including my responses here, are to encourage. Most of this planet is sleeping. We need to wake the f up. The two greatest decisions and gifts I gave myself were deciding to operate at my full-potential and deciding I would never have another bad day. And the biggest message I would like to leave behind is, learn and then love.