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Small, impactful moments breathe life into who we are.

Some of these moments are great, such as getting an A+ on a test, winning the 400-yard dash in a track meet, landing your dream job, having a child, meeting the love of your life.

Others not so much.

Your school counselor tells you that you will always be a ‘B-’ student – and you are. You get dumped by the love of your life. Someone close to you dies. You have a sudden health issue.

We have moments of discovery, realization, strength, clarity, confidence, winning, losing, that embolden us to move forward and choose the direction at the fork in the road.

Let me give you an example.

When I was in sixth grade, for one of our science lessons, we learned how to make a Hologram. Back in the 70s, holograms weren’t what they are today. But I like to think of them as an early version of virtual reality.

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For the hologram experiment, my classmates and I set up plates of glass on stands, cameras to record the experience and a laser that looked like a particle filled red beam, ready to shoot through a filter and plates of glass and onto the item to be virtualized – a single die. I think it came from a Yahtzee game.

The entire class donned protective glasses so that the laser didn’t blind us.

Each of us watched as the beam did its thing and created the hologram. It was a tense, exciting several moments.

When it was done, we took our glasses off and learned how to look for the hologram.

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Light reflects off the surface of the object into your two eyes and your brain merges their two pictures into a single stereoscopic (three-dimensional) image. If you move your head slightly, the rays of light reflected off the apple have to travel along slightly different paths to meet your eyes, and parts of the apple may now look lighter or darker or a different color. Your brain instantly recalculates everything and you see a slightly different picture. This is why your eyes see a three-dimensional image.

Our teacher told us to look at the plates of glass and we will see the die hovering in the air as a 3d image.

We looked—and looked—and looked.


After about 20 minutes, everyone gave up. The bell was about to ring. The teacher apologized for the botched experiment; confused as to what went wrong.

It has to be there, I thought.

Since lunch was next, I decided to hang out and look a little more.

That’s when I saw it. Not one die, but a group of five, hovering outside the edges of the plates of glass and in the air. My peripheral vision found them. I looked outside the confines of the instruction, the experiments expectation and the edges of my comfort zone.

I called the teacher and everyone over. Lunches in hand, we all pressed up against the lab counter and looked.

There they are, I said, pointing.

I can’t see it, one student replied.

It’s not there, another added.

Oh My God! I see it!

Finally. Someone else was willing to expand their personal horizon to take in the possible.

This is what I call an impactful moment. I found the hologram. Well, holograms. The teacher said she had never seen a group of holograms happen from one item before. It was a brand-new discovery—and I found it.

What do you think I gained from this experience?

· Confidence

· Happiness

· Purpose

· Clarity

· Pride

· Curiosity

· A desire to pursue

This moment stuck with me and it ended up guiding my interests. I discovered that I loved science.

My major in college was Marine Biology because another impactful moment led me to that particular science.

I had watched a movie called Day of the Dolphin in 9th grade and it made me so sad. Why did one of the dolphins have to die? I would save the dolphins and maybe teach them to talk.

I started volunteering at SeaWorld in SanDiego a week later.

I ended up changing my major after getting a B- in chemistry one quarter (yes, it was me that guidance counselor was talking to), which guided me toward a first career in television. Another impactful moment.

My point is, impactful moments’ drive our choices and our path in life. Sometimes they are out of our control, come suddenly into our experience or we smack into them.

What if I told you that there was a way to create impactful moments that drive you to a place where you choose to be? A place where happiness is yours for the taking and a knowing of what your place in the world should be – one filled with meaning and purpose?


It is a theory based on life, learning from impactful moments. I have manifested my person desires through this method, have researched it and taught it to others. I have seen it work with professionals and corporations.

I just read the recent book REACH, by PhD Andy Molinsky, about getting outside your comfort zone. In it I saw bits and pieces of my method. But not the whole enchilada. I am talking about The BIG REACH; a way to get to where you dream of going—and beyond. The method by which we achieve the improbable and realize that the impossible is actually attainable.

It’s creating a life of love, fulfillment, happiness and meaning — every day.

Think Einstein, Ben Franklin, Steve Jobs, Steven Hawkins, the movie Joy,…

It’s not just disrupting life as we know it or changing the world, but it’s a method that can change your personal world for the better.

Start thinking of the impactful moments in your life and I’ll be back to show you how to guide those moments to a place of bliss in my next installment of IMPACTFUL MOMENTS.

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