I have a secret to tell you.
You can achieve practically any of your wildest dreams.
It really doesn’t matter how big.
By the end of this blog post, you won’t be. I’m going to break down exactly how this works on both psychological and spiritual levels.
The first component to achieving something is picking it.
It could be anything.
It could be getting a better job.
Or being a better person.
It has to be something tangible, but that is currently not tangible to you. In other words, it has to be something you currently don’t have.
This is why the foundation of all goals is faith. And this isn’t a religious type of faith, although it could be.
Faith is simply having a belief or hope in something you can’t see or that doesn’t currently exist.
If you can’t hold it in your hand and you want it, you need faith to get it.
Faith can only exist if you actually believe you can get what you want. If you don’t believe you can get a better job or be a better person, then you can’t have the faith to create that goal. You may set that goal, but you will never achieve it.
This is where psychology and even learning theory come in. People who don’t believe they can do something have what psychologists call a “fixed” mindset. These people have been over-sold on the idea of having a domineering “identity” that cannot change. Nature is god and nothing can be nurtured.
Unfortunately, years and years of research continues to show that people with a fixed mindset struggle in life. They have lower self-esteem. Why wouldn’t they? They believe they are stuck and can’t do anything about it. Their fate was set at birth. Moreover, the research shows that people with a fixed mindset have a really, really hard time learning. Why learn if you don’t believe you can actually learn and evolve?
According to 50 years of research on learning theory, we all have a dominant learning style. We all also have several backup learning styles we rely on when we’re in a difficult situation. However, there are also several other learning styles that each of us neglect and avoid.
Some of these learning styles include:
If you skip any of these learning styles, you’re not likely to get very far. But that’s exactly what we all do. We all have learning preferences. We all prefer to do things “our way.”
Interestingly, most people have a “growth” mindset about the learning style they are comfortable with. For example, if you like math and learn in analytical ways, you probably believe you can get better at math. You probably approach challenges and failures as opportunities to grow. You probably seek out mentoring, education, and help. You’re probably curious and seeking to expand your knowledge and horizon about that thing.
However, most people have a “fixed” mindset about the learning styles they aren’t comfortable with. For example, if you don’t like writing, you probably believe you can’t get better at it. There are some things YOU simply can’t learn. They aren’t in your DNA or something, right?
If you have a growth mindset, you operate with faith. You believe in something you can’t see. You believe you can actually get better at something, even though that growth is currently only visible in your mind.
If you have a fixed mindset, you aren’t operating with faith. You don’t believe in what you can’t see. You’re a doubter. You’re over-confident and over-committed to a certain “cognitive commitment,” or way of seeing yourself. Because you don’t believe you can learn something, you actually can’t. You’ve put yourself in a box and you have no vision for the future in that area.
However, psychologists and learning theorists have plenty of evidence now showing that you can LEARN any of the learning styles. But only if you’re a flexible and adaptive learner.
This changes everything. It changes the notion of each person having fixed “strengths” and “weaknesses,” and instead paints a far more compelling picture.
You don’t have strengths or weaknesses per se, instead you have positive or negative learning habits. These habits have been fostered throughout your life. They’ve been conditioned over-and-over by your environment, because it is your tendency to put yourself into situations you are comfortable with.
When you’re comfortable with one learning style, you do everything you can to create situations and environments that allow you to exercise that learning style. Conversely, you avoid situations and environments that would have you use different learning styles.
Author and speaker, Wayne Dyer, once said, “When you change the way you see things, the things you see change.”
When you change how you see yourself, you change.
If you look at yourself in the mirror and believe in that person, you are then empowered. If you believe you can learn anything, you can. Are some things going to be harder to learn than others for you? Of course. Not because of fixed strengths and weaknesses. But because of atrophied or underdeveloped learning muscles, sabotaging beliefs, and bad habits.
When you believe in yourself, you love the person looking back at you in the mirror. You see so much potential. You see someone worth investing in. You see someone worth loving and living for. You see someone who can become better. As actor Matthew McConaughey said in a speech after winning an Oscar:
“Someone once asked who my hero was, and I said it was me in 10 years. So I turned 25. 10 years later that same person comes up to me, ‘So are you a hero?’ and I was like, ‘Not even close!’ She said ‘Why?’ ‘Because my hero is me at 35.’ So you see, every day, every week, every month, every year of my life, my hero is always 10 years away. I’m never gonna be my hero. I’m not gonna attain that. I know I’m not. And that’s fine with me. Because it keeps me with someone to keep on chasing.”
I don’t usually talk about the results I’ve gotten in my life. It’s not helpful to the reader. But I can honestly say every goal I’ve genuinely wanted to achieve, I’ve achieved.
Even goals that seemed impossible or ridiculous.
And there’s no better way to live.
It’s the only way to live as a pure and true creator. And that is exactly what you are.
You can create your own future. You can create your own identity.
I can say this with conviction because I’ve been doing it myself for going on a decade now.
You can create specific moments. You can also create enormous milestones, such as sitting next to your favorite author and being their teammate, not just their fan.
Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve.
Here’s a breakdown of what you actually need to achieve any goal:
If you don’t believe in goal-setting, it’s because you don’t know how to do it.
You have a fixed mindset.
You are a rigid, not a flexible learner.
You don’t have faith.
You haven’t tested the process.
You haven’t learned how to learn.
You don’t have confidence.
You over-emphasize nature and under-emphasize nurture.
When you look in the mirror, you don’t like the person you see.
You’re not chasing your hero 10 years ahead of you.
But you can change that right now. Because you can learn how to learn. You can become flexible. You can develop faith. Eventually, you can develop the confidence to take on any challenge your mind conjures up, no matter how big or seemingly “impossible.”
And the more you master this PROCESS, the faster you manifest the things you imagine in your mind into your living reality.
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Originally published at journal.thriveglobal.com