How Your Style Affects Your Confidence And Puts A Road Block On Your Path To Success With Women & Romance.

And How We Can Turn This Frown... Upside Down

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Tailor Yourself For Success

When it comes to personal style, it’s all about you. How you work it. How you own it. Where you borrowed it, and how you narrow down all your options to those that work for your figure, your personality, your coloring and your lifestyle.

Making simple or sometimes drastically needed changes in your wardrobe can create huge shifts in how you feel about yourself and how you come across to the world and more specifically, how you come across to women. The right style brings out the best in every man, at every age, in every situation.

Of course, we all struggle or have struggled (*clears throat & *mumbles “myself”) with the very basic question as to what looks right on us, and what makes us shine. To really get to know your own shape, identify your body type. This is the first step to choosing styles that are right for you.

The secret to finding your handsomeness and gaining self-confidence?

*Simply identify your favorite features and choose styles that accentuate the positive while camouflaging areas that you are most sensitive about and not so comfortable with.

*Know your best colors then narrow down to shades that bring out the handsome qualities in you. Wear colors that make your skin glow.

*Know what suits your age but learn how to keep it young and “of the times”. Even though there are no hard and fast rules in today’s day and age where men are more “metro” or health and body conscious than ever, dressing your age is really about making sure your clothes reflect who you are now and how they help boost your self-confidence.

*Edit your wardrobe to one that reflects your personality and your lifestyle. Create a wardrobe that you’re happy to face every day.

The romantic arena is no place for subtlety. To become an irresistible man magnet, mind your body language. By incorporating your body language into your vocabulary even the most self-conscious and reserved woman can communicate her deepest desires without even uttering a peep.

Your appearance is the first thing that a woman sees. Women are sexually attracted to a man’s physical magnetism. Your looks matter more than you think. Even though a woman will love you for your sense of humor, your confidence, your caring attention, and your intelligence, how you package yourself: your hair, your clothes, your personal hygiene and overall appearance is what initially attracts you to them.

I know, I know, easier said than done, right? After all you’ve been the person you are now for all these years. Why change now? You’s gettin’ ‘long just fine, ain’t cha? Wrong! If that was the case you wouldn’t have opened this post. The title of it’s content clearly spoke to you and that has to count for something… right?

Either way, I too, was once in your position. Reading a post similar to this one and I realized, “whoa, if I’m actually reading this, then I’m obviously looking for a change”. That’s literally what I told myself.

I wondered daily, “why wasn’t I having romantic success with women”, “what’s wrong with these creatures”? But then… after my drought went on longer and longer… I had to ask myself, “wait… what’s wrong with me?”

I had no confidence, I had no sense of fashion. I possessed an awesome sense of humor and was considered to be an amazing conversationalist, but women never got to see those features about me because the stench of my insecurities. I’m telling you, any woman could smell it the moment they laid eyes on me and that’s IF they laid eyes on me.

So I took massive action in changing myself and somehow I was able to turn it all around. Not going to lie, it did take me a while to begin achieving more romantic success, but eventually, it began coming more, more and more.

Before you knew it, my closest friends began inquiring about my makeover, how confident I began to appear and of course, how my success with women began to become more and more apparent.

Some even started to ask how I was doing it. Like I was some sort of wizard or something. I simply told them, “I changed and things changed”. But then they would just ask, “how?”.

That lead me to my life’s work. Helping others conquer the same dilemma I dealt with for my entire life. But the best part for you? Is that it doesn’t have to take you as long as it took me to get to where I am today.

With my Taylor Made Confidence Coaching & Image Consulting Program, I will take you through the process of complete inside out transformation.

Realize that I said, “inside out”, because you need to understand that this journey begins from within. You can no longer blame the outside world for who you are on the inside. It’s time for you to see your own worth. It’s time for you to surpass your roadblock to having more romantic success.

After all, my favorite quote by far and one that I live by every day is a very powerful one, and it goes, “if it is to be it is up to me”. No. I don’t know who said that, but that don’t matter anyhow. Point is, if you want to make a change, like I did, it is up to you to take massive action. The new you is on the other side of this journey. Are you going to find him, or, keep looking at the same man in the mirror?

If you’re interested in unlocking your romantic success and going through my “done with you” coaching program, please visit my website @ and fill out the survey.

– Shannon Taylor

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