I wonder if there’s a single individual whose thoughts have never known confusion and chaos. As much as we think that we are “balanced” and know what we want, no matter how well we have planned things out, sometimes comes a point when something goes wrong, it confuses us and changes our planned path.
Oftentimes we might say, “I’m confused, I don’t know what to do, I don’t know what I want, I don’t know where to start, My head is full of chaos, etc.”
Confusion usually occurs in our lives when there’s a shifting change or a crisis; when we are faced with unsolvable problems, and we feel that we are in deadlock; when we ask ourselves too many questions, and cannot wait to find answers; when we have to solve a number of tasks, but it is difficult to determine priorities; when we are overwhelmed by the large amount of conflicting information and do not know what is true and which path to choose.
In these cases our head is a full mess of thoughts and questions, and the more we think and try to bring everything in line the more entangled and confused we become. We start asking people around us for advice, yet these different opinions cause more chaos in our head.
We feel helpless, vulnerable, lost, and a step away from falling into a depression.
The chaos in our head generated in response to fear makes us desperate to fight with it, wanting to arrange things in an instant moment and in other cases subconsciously trying to escape from it by addiction to food, pleasure, money, or even drugs.
How do we deal with the chaos in our head? Is there a way we can bring thoughts in order, so everything can flow in the right direction?
Confusion and chaos in our minds means change.
First, it is important to change our views of the chaos.
Do not take the confusion as something negative. In fact, chaos is a wonderful period that can bring change and development.
According to the Theory of Chaos, chaos is at the heart of our development.
The ancient Greeks believed that chaos is the originator of all things and that this is a natural and original state of all affairs. Chaos is not the opposite of order, but the absence of a specific type of seeming order.
Scientists have reached the conclusion that in fact order is born out of chaos.
Mess is necessary from time to time to stir things, so they can be arranged in a new way and to give birth to something new.
The processes of thinking also follow this model. Through our various senses chaotic information reaches us then it’s processed and arranged, forming our ideas, convictions, and beliefs, based on which we make decisions and make choices.
If we constantly process the same information, we will become stuck. When everything in life goes smoothly and evenly, we stand still.
The advent of new information, the emergence of new situations and alternatives support our development. It is when things go wrong that a new beginning period forms.
Although everything seems totally confusing and irreparable, in fact things are the way they should be, as they will be falling into place.
At such times we are performing under renovation. It seems that chaos is necessary to catalyze new beginnings and processes.
Chaos seems to be a scientific category that is an expression of irreversible disorder and a unique change system that presents new opportunities, development, and creativity.
Disorderliness is tiny disorder, tiny “fertility,” from which the new is born.
Throughout the years, while reading many books in the fields of psychology, philosophy, sciences, religions, literature, fiction, etc., at one point there was an overflow of information and chaos that took over.
So many theories, so much truth — who and what to believe, what path to take?
Many of the things I learned were contrary to my ideas about the world and myself.
This chaos began ruining my ideas and made me look for my own truth. Not the truth that was imposed to me by all of the readings. Thus, I gradually started to build new views of the world and myself and create methods and approaches that work for me.
Now looking back, I see this chaos, as it was necessary, so I could build something new.
This often happens within the confusion of many life problems. Sometimes the mess breaks all our concepts and questions everything we knew until it becomes a turning point in our lives.
If we use this moment and see opportunity in it, we can make a significant leap in our development and change our lives for the better.
Methods I used during such moments:
The power of meditation.
I have found that the best way for myself to find calmness and to bring order out of chaos is meditation.
Stop for a moment and be alone with yourself. Watch your thoughts, which are like wild birds darting to and from without direction. Watch them without trying to arrange them, stop them or give them definitions and evaluation. Just calmly and impartially watch their chaotic movement until they calm themselves.
When we are unconscious and automatically react to the ensuing internal chaos, the chaos grows, and when our emotional attitude towards what is happening is realized or under realization chaos begins to transform in order.
The power of decision-making.
Often at the root of the confusion is a fear that we cannot make a decision to take a step forward. Listen to your inner voice and just make a decision. Remember that there are no right or wrong decisions, just different solutions. It is better to take a step forward and be wrong than to live in hesitation to procrastination, standing in one place.
The power of doing the same thing over and over every day at a particular time.
Performing routine things of every day life such as eating, sleeping, shopping, cooking, etc. at a certain time of the day and being completely present at that very moment helps us be “on track.” When our daily activities are carried out in a mode that makes processes in our body and mind this creates synchronization in our lives.
Focus entirely on your daily activities. When we realize every action and pay attention to small details around us — like the bright red color of tomatoes or aroma of the coffee or tea we drink — this becomes a meditative practice that also helps the transformation of chaos into order.
Often in these ordinary moments of everyday life we reach a decision, insight or realize peace and order over chaos.
The power of time and allowing yourself to flow through what is happening.
Don’t force yourself to exit the chaos immediately. Time is necessary to go through the chaos. So run with the flow and enjoy every moment along the way.
The power of confusion to create order.
Realize that confusion is not something final and irreversible. Realize that is like a cloud that temporarily hides the sun or the rising stars.
Have patience and do not strive to solve everything immediately. Just identify your priorities and start from that point. Step by step things will fall in the best way possible.
Everything sounds easier said than do, right?
Of course, in some cases, chaos continues for a very long time. Situations seem complicated, convoluted, and scary. In such moments, it would be wise to share with others and seek specialists to help you correct the path of organizing the chaos.
What do you think? Have you ever been confused and how did you deal with the internal chaos?
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About The Author
Dr. Mila is an internationally known Change Catalyst. She teaches individuals and organizations about awareness, connection, and the need for change – personally, socially, and professionally.