“How do I find the barriers that hinder me?” – Have you ever asked yourself this questions?
One of the main conclusions I have reached throughout my life is that the outside world reflects the inner world of people.
If stories in your life are repeated, if people behave towards you in a certain way, if you are continually disappointed with your life, if you experience constant fear, and anxiety, it could be due to your subconscious beliefs and convictions that you often do not realize.
If you want to change your life, you have to turn to yourself, to start removing the inner barriers that are hindering you, to release the negative feelings, create a more positive path, and change your restrictive beliefs. Every change in your inner world will lead you to a change of the majority of the world that surrounds you.
How do you discover what hinders you? How do you know what are the barriers that are hindering you and making your beliefs attract what’s happening to you?
Many will logically respond, “I understand, change begins with me, but what can I do, what exactly do I change?”
Indeed, when you discover some type of a subconscious conviction that hinders you, this is exactly when this subconscious discovery will lead you to the way of change.
The question is, “How do you reach this way?”
To understand what is happening inside of you and to reach your subconscious thoughts, fears, and attitudes, you need to be in solace, to be in your own space, on your own and to begin to write down and analyze what is happening inside of your mind.
Set time aside for yourself, to have conversations with yourself. Make sure you feel comfortable and that you’re relaxed.
Try not to think about the opinions of others, people’s comments that you have heard about what you need and do not needs, what is right and what is not.
Start a conversation with yourself. Ask yourself:
Am I satisfied with my life?
How do I feel?
What is my common mood?
What are most common thoughts?
What do I fear?
Do I feel responsible for everything that is happening around me?
Do I feel guilt about something?
How do I perceive myself?
What do I think of myself?
What do I think about the world?
What do I think about life?
What do I think about my life?
What kinds of people surround me?
How do they usually behave around me?
Be sincere with yourself. Do not hide anything from yourself.
Don’t be judgmental of your thoughts and fears. The goal is to not blame yourself, but to look at yourself objectively and take a look at your inner world, so you can begin to make necessary changes.
When you write, many unconscious thoughts and patterns will come out and you will even be surprised by the number of your own thoughts.
Don’t rush to write out your responses. Give yourself enough time for this conversation. Write down all the thoughts that arise from the questions you asked yourself. Allow yourself to feel what you are experiencing and describe it.
Then read what you wrote. You may find that some of your thoughts are repeated. For instance, you may have written that life is a continuous struggle and you cannot cope with everything; you consider yourself a flaw, an individual who has no qualities to achieve something. Here you have reached two beliefs that pull you back – one is that in order to achieve something, you have to fight cruelly constantly and it’s almost impossible to win, and the other is that you do not trust yourself and your strengths. That’s the key. Right here. This is your start.
You may not be able to reach a specific answer right away. If you have not talked to yourself this way, you will probably find it hard to find what is deeply within you.
Take time each day to work on this exercise, to be alone, to talk and write about your own self.
Think about how you would like to be, what you would like to feel, what you would like to have in your life. For instance, you want to be strong, confident, have a quality of friends.
Now write a sentence stating that you already have what you desired. For instance:
“I have a lot of friends.”
Read this statement. What do you feel about it? Does it make you sad, angry, does it seem impossible for you to say, what do you think of friendships in your life?
Write down everything you feel and this about the statement. Don’t be silent. Close your eyes and hear the messages that come from your subconscious. You may hear something like:
“There are no real friends, you cannot believe anyone, people are upset and complaining all of the time.”
This will lead you to the barrier in your subconscious level – your beliefs that people are bad, the world is a dangerous and unfriendly place, attracts people and circumstance that confirm this belief.
The things you believe come true to you. Your mind always finds evidence that supports what you believe and is deeply embedded in your subconscious.
By analyzing your answers and thoughts, you will find that you have no confidence in people at all, you even distrust yourself.
By doing these exercises, you will reach beliefs and attitudes that have been unconscious and which attract repetitive situations and attitudes of others to you.
How about your dreams? When you dream, what do you do with your dreams?
Write them down.
This is another way of reaching your subconscious beliefs and thoughts, which are embedded in your dreams.
Psychologists do not accidentally tell their patients to record their dreams. Because when you often deny or do not realize what you’re feeling, but in your dreams the suppressed feelings always come out. If you analyze your dreams, and feelings, you may reach what is torturing you and find the key to solving your problems. Try it.
Have you reached your subconscious thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes? Do you have a way of understanding what is happening within you and how it can help you change and create a better world for yourself?
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About The Author
Dr. Mila is an internationally known Change Catalyst. She teaches individuals and organizations about awareness, connection, and the need for change – personally, socially, and professionally.