“I really want this, but I can’t afford it. I’m going to get it anyway!” I thought to myself as I ‘eyed’ the cute little designer midnight blue mini handbag.
I felt a tight, stifling, almost claustrophobic feeling in my solar plexus as I pulled out my credit card handing it to the kind looking lady as she wrapped it up for me.
I don’t usually buy myself fancy or special things, my purchases are usually practical ones, but every so often I see something that I just have to ‘have’.
My story around making special purchases is that “I can’t afford it” which causes me to feel the tight and contracted sensations in my body when I am in the act of making a purchase.
I usually pay it off in the long run, there really is no harm in buying myself something special.
The “I can’t afford it” story is based in scarcity.
The subconscious mind governs 95% of your behavior, that is a scientific fact.
As long as you hold limiting stories and beliefs in your subconscious mind around money, you will not be able to have, allow, or feel worthy of having the money you want.
Your subconscious limiting stories and beliefs around money prevent you from having the abundance that you truly desire.
Where do these stories and beliefs come from?
From your childhood.
When you were little, your first exposure to your parent’s stories and beliefs around money are the ones that you adopted for yourself.
“Money doesn’t grow on trees!”
“Money can’t buy happiness!”
“Money is the root of all evil!”
“You have to work hard to make a lot of money!”
Those are just a few of the many popular stories about money, I’m sure you’re familiar with them.
Those stories stay with you as an adult. They govern and influence the way you think, feel and react to money.
It’s important to understand that a belief is only a belief and it’s not a law or rule or something you HAVE to follow. You have the free will to change your beliefs whenever you choose to.
So the question remains, “How do you change this?”
There are many layers when it comes to uncovering what you hold in your subconscious mind. Today I am going to give you a 4 Step Process that uncovers the most superficial of those layers so that you can begin to shift those limiting stories and beliefs and create new ones.
Get a pen and paper.
Here is the 4 Step Process that creates new stories and beliefs around money:
1. Answer the following questions (write as many answers as you can):
A. Money is _________.
B. I’d like to have more money but ______________.
C. The reason I don’t have the money I want is __________.
2. Take a moment to look at your responses. Then acknowledge the fact that ALL those responses are stories. ALL of them. Stories.
3. Now, look at each of the statements you wrote down and write the opposite instead.
4. Pick 10 of the opposite (positive) statements that most resonate with you and make a recording on your phone stating them. Listen to this recording when you get up in the morning and before you go to sleep at night every day for at least 4 months and you will see a dramatic shift in your relationship to money.
The way to maintain this new way of thinking about money is through consistency and repetition. That is scientifically how you create new stories and beliefs in your subconscious mind.
You are a powerful person.
One of the most powerful things you can do to change your life is to control how you think about things, and that includes your subconscious mind.
You know what I did the other day?
Purchased a cute indigo Marc Jacobs over the should bag with joy and ease!