With the latest “stay at home” orders and various news messages about whether we wear masks, maintain our physical distance, or can gather in groups, our routines have shifted without our approval or input.
There are widespread reactions when people feel out of control. With toddlers, for instance, there can be incredible push back when their schedule changes in a moment. For adults, when we feel we don’t know something or there is uncertainty in our future, fight or flight is often the first response.
This primal behavior can also include words and actions which can be combative compared to proactive. Other responses include depression, emotional meltdowns, or expressions of misdirected anger at others. Thus, sadly to say, the last two months have seen an increase in domestic violence across the world.
Do we stay in a pattern of negativity and low vibes or do we increase our awareness with what we can do in resourcefulness? How can we stay centered in our personal authority and leadership to create solutions, starting with an at-home oasis? What if we are being triggered by other’s mindsets and narratives, no longer hearing our own beliefs or perceptions?
We all know the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. When we find ourselves in a new landscape and scenario, we can easily fall back to a default that is based on primitive motivations and needs. While this mental zone is limited on many levels, we can stay complacent for days here – even if it drains us of hope and shrinks us down to our worst self.
Instead of a cycle of scarcity and emptiness, what if you considered creating your own 2020 remedy starting with self-care? How about the perspective that we now have the time to actually write out our personalized thriver roadmap, where we engineer what works best for us – hour by hour or day by day?
Enclosed below is a list of starting ideas to invite and inspire you in a call to action to imagine, compose, and draft what works for you. Now is your opportunity to design and implement a multi-dimensional formula compared to waiting on others to create your best routines, morning rituals or roadmap out of anxiety.
The Internal Due Diligence (P-L-A-N):
- Plan to meditate. What if for 20 minutes a day you allowed yourself to leave the present 3D reality to dream about what is possible? Consider the Creator did not make a mistake with you at this time. Allow your faith for a moment to lead you past any news messages, critics, or worst-case situations. Meditation and intention can serve as a starting point for positive actions to follow. It feels like September 11, 2001 caused global trauma and today, 19 years later … a new generation feels unsafe in the world and can benefit from meditation.
- Leverage a compliment journal. While our minds tend to be lead much more by pain than pleasure motivators, what if we proactively reversed this driver in what we recorded on paper? We can prepare a literary scrapbook by date in writing down other’s positive words towards us – how much better is it to recall and reflect on our genuine connections, impact, influence, and contributions? This isn’t about ego or illusion but rather seeing the repetition of constructive evidence in stacking memories towards what is good. This practice serves to not feed negative stories, learned helplessness or, emotional deaths by a thousand cuts. Come year-end, each December 31st, this journal makes a worthwhile year-end annual report outside of work.
- Analyze it with curiosity. Ask yourself “what makes me afraid in both pro’s and con’s? What part(s), in particular, makes me afraid?” If a dark cloud lingers, ask “does it even have any water in it, or is it just a puffy dark cloud blocking the ability for me to shine? How much water does it have to rain down on my parade? Is it real or a figment of my fears getting bigger?” One has substance, one doesn’t. We could call this a chain of title to untangle. Is it your cloud or someone else’s?
- Narrow down your priorities. What we do with our time matters. When we write it down, there is a higher likelihood of follow-through. The fruit of your life, as in your legacy, is on you … what can you do to take charge, starting with your pen or pencil today in today’s hours? What I find sad is the people who attack the idea of their life having a legacy are many times the same ones who gave up in their will power.
Our Weekly External Choices (in ABC order):
- Buy fresh flowers. Weekly fresh flowers can brighten up your desk in an office, a breakfast nook, a bathroom vanity or any favorite spot. Living flowers can raise the vibration in any space and any day. It is the little things, the small details, that can add more joy to our days.
- Decrease sugar, wheat, and alcohol. When people are dismissive, it can be because they can’t handle the underlying or complex emotions around the subject – something as simple as eliminating bread or sweets can be a battle because it offers an escape. It serves a purpose. Emotions pushed down and numbed out can come up when giving up comfort food. While organic red wine is said to be better than non-organic wine related to pesticide use, how about alternatives? What foods are truly best for our bodies today and in the long term? When we select better choices in nutrition, we strengthen more than our immune system.
- Exercise daily (or practice yoga). Twenty, thirty or forty minutes of exercise a day has endless benefits and the first ten minutes may always be the most challenging. On busy days, we can save our long walk to the hour before we fall asleep and enjoy working out under a sky of stars. Exercise is really a gift you give yourself in taking care of your vessel. The couch appears safe but it can also become a crutch.
- Feng shui your home. By learning your energy number, you can start to position certain objects and select specific colors in exact rooms for increased flow. Wouldn’t you rather know and have the principles of the feng shui work in your home? When we honor our space, it creates more flow and ease for productivity.
- Invest in a water filter. Since it is recommended to drink eight glasses a day and avoid plastic water bottles for our oceans, why not budget for this fixture? The smallest investments in our lifestyle can be moments of a conscious effort to experience better living.
- Invite or reconnect with individuals socially. Relationships add new dimensions of meaning to our lives – and yet, we also risk rejection each time we extend ourselves. Yet while the risk is in the offer, the reward is in the connection. New and existing friendships can change our destiny for the better. At the start of any new alliance, there is also the beginning of a new perception, story or belief created around what is now possible.
- Make a vision board. Whether we create our first or next collage, we add a visual tool to our written goals. We can start with compile images onto a board of any size in manifesting new possibilities for our future. Let’s not ignore or airbrush out our dreams at this time.
- Research coffees and teas. There are many tea choices that can assist with our thyroid, adrenals, as well as hormones. In addition to matcha green, white and black teas, how about burdock root, moringa, or Chaga mushroom? In realizing the connection between the body, gut, and mind in overall performance, the more we can refresh and find calm from the inside out. The more alkaline our vessel from any environmental toxins, the clearer our daily thinking.
- Try fruit oils or aloe vera. I switched out my face and body lotions to incorporate cranberry seed oil, pomegranate seed oil, raspberry seed oil, rosehip fruit oil and/or apricot kernel oil for skincare. What we absorb in chemicals on the outside of our body, the largest organ, affects all of our other systems. How much do we know about the ingredients of our products?
- Walk barefoot daily. No matter how great our boundaries are, the people whom we surround ourselves with have an impact! We can absorb other’s energy just as we can absorb their mindset and emotions – it’s like walking into a room where everybody is laughing and you feel laughing all of a sudden. Walking barefoot on the grass (or the dirt) grounds our auric field in the energies we can get enmeshed in. Long and even breaths can also relax the nervous system in moments of stress to reset our emotional set point.
Actually writing out and following through on your self-care plan can shift you towards happiness and abundance, slowly lift you out of the fog of depression, or allow you to see the resources around you. Let’s pivot from fear to fulfillment today starting where we are this moment! It is smart self-responsibility to care about yourself in filling your own bucket.
We can wait for others to notice what is best for us or we can own the relationship we have with our sanity, soul, and well being.
Invite your family, partners, or friends in on this positive exercise if it feels right in how you can begin to redirect our energy and resources.
While constant consumerism can influence us with messages of ‘we are as valuable as what we can buy’ or ‘we are as loved as who likes us or how many like us’, we can also step back to value the life-altering skill set of how we agree to take care of our being no matter the approval rating.
Your first draft can start on a notecard or the back of a napkin. It can finish with a framed list hung in your new home office or a creative visual illustration by a graphic designer.
In fact, on your notecard or napkin, draw a triangle on the bottom where the first level or layer is labeled “self-care”, the second level or layer above it (in the middle) represents “clarity” and the pyramid capstone represents “joy”.
Resilience and success are a part of life just as stress, fear, or invisible losses are. If or when our current environment creates trauma that ‘can’ easily lead to narcissistic behavior, let’s heal compared to self implode, self-abuse or hurt others.
Making space and committing to a new self-care routine can open your mind to a new peace of mind that allows for more awareness, empowerment, and self-expression. When we preserve and protect the best of ourselves in how we show up each day, we expand what we are capable of in giving, noticing and manifesting.
This self-executing or unilateral agreement can change how we are present for our feelings as well as other’s emotion. Our focus is best directed in conversations around what we can influence, how we show up, and how we contribute to others in connection and relationship. Perhaps this latest pandemic can strengthen compared to weaken us as a human species.
Your notecard (or draft napkin) can be the first chapter to your life’s legacy in knowing what you are consciously designing, building, and recording. To someone out there, you may be their role model.
Beyond any level of stress or cluster of fears, we can still decide and choose how we can leverage every resource to maximize our self-care plan.