Toxic noise doesn’t just blast out of your television or spew forth from your social media. We are profoundly impacted by all varieties of inputs in our lives. These inputs can alter our actions, our emotions, our perspective, and our attitude – even in the workplace.
Studies have shown that employee’s attitudes can be altered based on their associates and who they interact with most frequently. This issue is so prevalent, that some HR professionals are taking care to examine personalities when it comes to building teams and departmental dynamics as a part of organizational development.
We tend to ‘rub off’ on the people we spend the most time with. Those you associate with will either lift you up or drag you down. Choosing who you spend time with is more important that you might think! People’s behavior patterns, beliefs, and outlooks will be shaped by those that they are close to. Think about the people you spend the most time with – are they ‘lifters’ or ‘downers’?
Most of us typically gravitate to those that possess naturally buoyant personalities and steer clear of those that have a toxic outlook on life. However, what if that negative quicksand lives with you, is a close relative or works right next to you – then what??
You either become the unselfconscious victim . . . or you wake up, realize how much the toxic noise impacts you and do your best to mitigate it. Living as a victim is optional.
“Happiness is not a condition, it’s a decision”. – Unknown
First, understand what you ARE in control of your life. Second: accept what you are NOT in control of (which is a lot).
For example: you are not in control of the weather, traffic, and other people – including politics and whatever craziness is posted on social media. Yelling at the traffic won’t make it go away. You are only in control of YOU and your response to situations.
If I can convince them of the facts they’ll see the light.
I can’t be happy until this relationship is fixed.
If I’m patient and hang in there, they’ll eventually come around.
By setting an example, you set the standard of behavior for others. Just remember that you cannot force people to change. Here are the keys to unlocking healthy relationships:
I refuse to watch TV in the morning. Instead, I will make an action plan for the day and meditate. On the way to and from work, I listen to something funny while driving. In the evening, I focus on my loved ones and take time before bed to write in my journal or read a book. I can catch up on News online and I’m not impacted every day by the toxic noise spewing forth into my life. I can respond and not react. I can THINK.
The first step to unplugging from the toxic noise is observation and awareness. When we feel like craziness is controlling our lives and we can’t escape the negative quicksand – we need to check our inputs. Only then can we become aware and then respond appropriately to move forward into a life of freedom.
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always got” – Unknown
Originally published at www.uppsolutions.net