“How To Slow Down To Do More”, with Monique Guild and Chaya Weiner

A feeling is a chemical, that cascades through the body. As we get older, many people add more to their plates; these additions cause one to begin to think a certain way, more stressed, worried or overwhelmed, as a person progresses and doesn’t stop to evaluate each step of the way, the body gets used […]

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A feeling is a chemical, that cascades through the body. As we get older, many people add more to their plates; these additions cause one to begin to think a certain way, more stressed, worried or overwhelmed, as a person progresses and doesn’t stop to evaluate each step of the way, the body gets used to the chemical flow and eventually craves more and more of the chemicals. This new thinking causes the brain to create a neural net or feedback loop. It becomes an addiction to adrenaline coupled with keeping up with the Joneses.

I had the pleasure to interview Monique Guild. Featured in the Los Angeles Times, satellite office of the Wall Street Journal, Dagens Næringsliv (Norwegian for “Today’s Business”), NBC, ABC, numerous radio and television shows. Monique Guild, Futurist, is one of the most significant global leaders in Turnaround and Development Strategy. Monique is also known as a Wealth Builder and is an expert in Global Partnerships. Monique diagnoses you and your business with precision, and uncanny insight; using her laser-sharp abilities to identify barriers to success, deliver spot-on diagnoses, resulting in optimum solutions. Issues that have perplexed financial experts and consultants for years, Monique determines with lightning speed and accuracy, saving and earning companies millions of dollars.

Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us the “backstory” about what brought you to this specific career path?

I am often asked, “How did you start your business?” My answer, “It started me, and then I followed it.”

I was working for a corporation running 43 Centers across the nation as their National Director. Whatever my department did, it impacted the rest of the company’s centers nationally, and they had to follow suit.

My official title was the National Director of Success Stories. I dealt with happy people all day long who’d found bliss through the company, and I also supplied the media with clients nationwide. For example, when theriotsbroke out in Los Angeles, theLos Angeles Times wanted to interview an interracial couple to see how the riots affected them. When the Oprah show called, they wanted to interview younger men who dated older women; I supplied them with these individuals. Any media — television, print, radio, and so forth, I was the go-to person nationally.

When initially hired, the department was in disarray nationwide;within three months it was in tip-top shape. I’d gathered a database of our clients across the nation of 1000 people who were telegenic and ready for all types of media…all by speaking to them over the phone.

I didn’t waiver about the task at hand; it was a formidable challenge and dove in with ease. I’d also created The Success Story Manual for each center — a booklet outlining guidelines on how to run the department, its rules, and regulations. In addition, I gathered a team of people to custom create 43 photo albums, one for each center. These albums consisted of happy people and couples who’d found love and success through the company. Moreover, I also organized a national conference, where all the heads from each of the 43 centers of my departmentflew into Los Angeles. At this conference, I explained in detail all the procedures from the Manuel I’d created.

I still didn’t think much about it; I just did my job. However, I must say, that since I was a child, I always knew I had a business since about me. Often, I couldn’t understand why the adults couldn’t see what I could see so clearly.

However, within three months of working there,the company was statistically audited, as you can imagine itwas a big deal. I can’t remember who demanded facts but, it was serious. We had to prove the numbers.

Soon after, The Los Angeles Times discovered my work, interviewed me and featured me on the cover of the METRO section http://moniqueguild.com/press. it was at that time, the CFO of the company, Keith, took note and said, “Monique, you’ve got some other certain talent going on with you.”

I didn’t realize it at the time, but for the company, the interview was a big win because you can’t request an interview form the Los Angeles Times, they must ask you.

From there it all continued to unfold, and in 2000, I took a leap of faith and went full time.

The business has always had a life of its own, and I’ve followed its lead. I love doing what I do. I love helping people and businesses overcome the seemingly impossible situation and being a witness to their thriving.

It’s taken me on the most excellent ride of a lifetime, and it’s nowhere near over. I feel like I am just getting started!

I believe and know; if there is a business venture that repeatedly shows up in your life, you may want to pause and take note.

It might be your greatest endeavor yet!

According to a 2006 Pew Research Report, 26% of women and 21% of men feel that they are “always rushed.” Has it always been this way? Can you give a few reasons regarding what you think causes this prevalent feeling of being rushed?

A feeling is a chemical, that cascades through the body. As we get older, many people add more to their plates; these additions cause one to begin to think a certain way, more stressed, worried or overwhelmed, as a person progresses and doesn’t stop to evaluate each step of the way, the body gets used to the chemical flow and eventually craves more and more of the chemicals. This new thinking causes the brain to create a neural net or feedback loop. It becomes an addiction to adrenaline coupled with keeping up with the Joneses.

Based on your experience or research can you explain why being rushed can harm our productivity, health, and happiness?

The bottom line, you miss the moment, the direction that you are getting in the moment from hearing your inner wisdom. Rushing through life thinking and feeling that when you hit that next target, then you will be happy, the problem with that is that the target always moves. Look, I love tackling complex cases, diving in and the smell of victory. And I also love hanging with my animals and smelling the flowers. I need both. They both fuel each other.

On the flip side, can you give examples of how we can do more, and how our lives would improve if we could slow down?

By slowing down, you can hear and follow that inner wisdom and vision, leap over obstacles, creating an acceleration to what you are accomplishing. Why? The subconscious mind steps in and knows how to guide you from Point A to Point B.

We all live in a world with many deadlines and incessant demands for our time and attention. That inevitably makes us feel rushed. Can you share with our readers 6 strategies that you use to “slow down to do more?” Can you please give a story or example for each?

1) Meditation — slows down and focuses the mind.

2) A rubber band around the wrist. Snap it, when your mind starts to wander, to re-focus and return you to the present.

3) Write in your journal every morning, until you can hear and feel your inner wisdom’s guidance. I often ask myself questions that I need answers to and will write until I feel an answer resonate.

4) Exercise

5) Go to your favorite spot. Losing yourself in the atmosphere of another environment, causes you to think differently. This allows your subconscious mind to do the ‘thinking for you’ in figuring out any events in which you need solutions.

6) If you wake up in the middle of the night, sometimes answers are provided to questions that you had during the day. Have a pad next to your bed and take note.

How do you define “mindfulness”? Being fully present. Can you give an example or a story?

When I was a child, spending time with my grand-dad who was deaf, a farmer and the love of my life, was extremely important. I always knew my time with him was precious and that I didn’t want to miss a minute of it. I had to be very “present” with him to communicate because of his disability, and I had to be “mindful” to always speak very slowly.

As I write this now, this memory brings tears to my eyes, and I realize this is where I learned mindfulness. It was my time with my grand-dad.

Being present with other human beings and slowing down is not only where I have learned my most valuable lesson in life but is also where I have received intuitive guidance about my next steps in life and business.

I’ve been very fortunate to be often surrounded by seven children and young adults from the ages of 11–15 in the last few months.

Polly was bursting at the seams when I walked in the door this particular night. I got in about 10:30 took about four steps into the front door and had to drop my bags there on the floor, she couldn’t wait to tell me her latest discoveries.

I am very passionate about helping this age group to stand in their full power. They have such tremendous insight, inner wisdom, and unique abilities. I know they are meant to bring balance to a very out of balance world; through discovering their gifts and applying their natural knowledge of intuition, visionary skills and, insight.

Polly and I had our first in-depth conversation about a month before this particular night. I was walking by her on my way to the kitchen to pour some tea as she sat there with earphones in her ears listening to music and drawing. I looked over to see what she was doing, and I was blown away by what I saw. I had a natural curiosity and started to ask questions about the images and how she came to create them. That was the beginning of our friendship.

Our second conversation started as I passed Polly and her friend Jill on the way to the kitchen again to fill up my teacup. I stopped to speak with Polly who is 13 and Jill who is 11. One thing led to another, and before you know it, we were in conversation about intuition, gut instincts and extrasensory abilities (up until this point they had no idea of my work and my heightened sense of intuition.)

Polly began to tell me about how she knows future things before she arrives in her classroom. She said that she would have the experience of going to class, something will happen, and will know what will happen next because she feels like she’s already had this experience. Jill then, to my utter surprise, chimed in as if it’s natural to say, “I ‘know’ things about people.” I was stunned. I said, “What do you mean?” She said that she had an inherited ability and explained that her uncle, grandmother, and mom all could hold an object in their hand and tell you about the person who owned the object. I was excited to be speaking to these two!

I will go back to Polly and I the other night at 10:30. She’d done much research since our last conversation and took me to all of these different YouTube videos, everything from conspiracy theories to psychics.

As I listened to her, I realized that the information highway on the internet is a blessing and a curse; if used in a way that is not supportive of these brilliant young minds. I could hear her begin to go down a road of fear and what could happen with A.I. and Robots.

The way to lead is by going within and then going without —I stopped her and said, “Polly this is about you becoming the OBSERVER in your life. Don’t allow the outside world to control you by fear; that’s how the media controls the mass population. It’s about instilling fear-based thinking of; somehow you are not smart enough, pretty enough, the world is going to end, AI (artificial intelligence) will take us over, Robots will be the end to all jobs.

It would help if you became the observer, to observe your inside self-first. Develop your talents fully, such as your art and singing, express them and get to understand your inside self, your instincts and intuition. Learn how that speaks to you, and guides you, then bring that “inside self’ and impress that onto the world. By doing this, you set the tone, do not allow the world clamors tell you who to be through fear and manipulation. You are a leader Polly, and the way to truly lead is by going within and then going without. Observe your reality into existence by ‘seeing’ for yourself the reality you want to create by viewing the world through the eyes of your inner guidance. She stood there listening and understood what I meant.

I realized that the same advice I had given her in our two-hour conversation, I need to hear as well.

What I’m about to say may sound odd to you but, recently, I feel like I have had a life review through my dreams. I’ve never gotten much life guidance through my dreams but, in the last few weeks, my dreams have manifested in a very different format. My dreams have become mirrors showing me how I have lived my life up to this point. These dreams were NOT about seeing all that I had accomplished. I dreamt things about myself that I was not proud of, things I had done over the course of the last 20 years. Some opportunities presented to me that I either squandered or took for granted. I saw it all so clearly. It was astounding.

These new dreams have affected me so profoundly, I prayed and sincerely apologized and asked for forgiveness and stated “I will live the rest of my days in maximum service with all of my gifts and in helping others to develop their talents. Please show me, where would you have me be? Where would you have me go? Embody me fully, please speak through me, see through me and hear through me and enlarge my platform in ways that are beyond anything I could ever imagine, and I promise you: I will show up.” And then I said, “Please show me my next steps, and I will march forward.”

With this said, I would like to tie back into my conversation with Polly. I told her, “I have written a book. I finished it, but I have been a bit stuck on chapter 1 because I had my editor edit somethings and I have not been able to figure out why it doesn’t feel right. I asked her if she would look at the contents and she gave a thrilled response of yes!

I thought to myself, “How great would it have been if I had a book, teacher or person to guide me as a child?” Suddenly, it became clear that that was not supposed to be the case. From an early age, I had to learn to listen to my “inside self” and be guided by that inner voice and gut instinct. So that I could pass it on and help these young adults do the same. It dawned on me that these were my “Marching Orders.” An answered prayer.

I am convinced that as “normal” as it may be for kids to be behind the computer screens and into technology, there are an equal amount of kids that are supposed to bring balance to this world through their visions and other sensory abilities. So many of these kids are being overmedicated and told something is wrong with them — nothing is wrong with them. Just because we have not figured out how to put these abilities onto a hard drive, it doesn’t mean these abilities aren’t real or putting them on a hard drive is not in our foreseeable future!

I saw a huge billboard the other day that read, “Sensitivity to sensory stimuli may be a sign of autism in children” — I wanted to jump out of my car, leap onto of the billboard and tear it down! It’s BS. Children are getting brain overload in their formative years. There is too much external stimulus and not enough “inside” time. I won’t go down this path now with you but, it’s something I’ve written about in previous newsletters. If you would like, email me, monique@moniqueguild.com and I will forward it to you.

I am so grateful and blessed to be able to open my eyes, have a curious mind and to see and hear the signs of what my next steps are. The life review was not easy to see, but for what came out of it, I am grateful.

Can you give examples of how people can integrate mindfulness into their everyday lives? Do you have any mindfulness tools that you find most helpful at work?

It’s very simple, put a rubber band around your wrist. When you get too far into the future worrying about what will happen or too far back into the past regretting what did happen pop that rubber band to remind you to come back to the now, also, including the tools, I stated above help tremendously.

What are your favorite books, podcasts, or resources that inspire you to use mindfulness tools or practices?

I love Science, neurology, chemistry, a bit of physics and Quantum Physics. Researching these areas and learning something new, puts me in the moment and expands my mind. I read an excellent article on Tesla the other day. Did you know that his visions were so clear that he often had a hard time distinguishing between what was his vision and reality; his mind is so fascinating to me. My go-to resource is journaling and daily meditation. Whenever I feel overwhelmed or stressed out, or there is just too much chatter going on inside my head, I set my timer on my phone for 20 minutes and meditate. I don’t care where I am; I will do this. If I only have five minutes, I take that five minutes and meditate.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

It would be from my grandfather, George Guild, Sr. He said to me when I was a child, “Do you want to hoot with the owls or soar with the Eagles?” I hooted with the Owls for sure when I was younger but by the time, I was 24, I knew it was time to Soar!

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

As in my conversation with Polly and Jill, it has to do with children and young adults. The legacy I will leave behind is making what I do the norm, especially for the young adults and children now being born into this world. That is to hear how your intuition is guiding you, learn to listen to that guidance in order to know what your next step is, instead of allowing the world to tell you what is right for you.

I’m seeing too many kids and young adults are overly medicated — when there is nothing wrong with them. Being withdrawn or inarticulate or rebellious is not a cause for medication. These kids have an intuitive sensibility that stems from within. It must be cultivated not suffocated.

Thank you so much for these insights! This was so inspiring!

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About the author:

Chaya Weiner is the Director of branding and photography at Authority Magazine’s Thought Leader Incubator. TLI is a thought leadership program that helps leaders establish a brand as a trusted authority in their field. Please click HERE to learn more about Thought Leader Incubator.

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