Reinventing ourselves can seem like an impossible task, especially when it’s done over and over again. No matter what you’ve been through, and what opinion you have created for yourself, there is always a way to change into the person you long to be.
Making this ‘new you’ stick is a different story. It takes bravery to see the potential in yourself, no matter how low of a place you are in. Many have dragged themselves out of a hole they have dug for themselves, but it takes honesty to know what went wrong, and motivation to change.
Once you renew your passions, or find what you truly want to do with your life, it can bring a new meaning to everyday life. Your mood will lift, even if you are in the planning stages. Always explore all of your options, and do not be scared to admit to yourself what you are really looking for.
Start A Plan To Reinvent Yourself
Evaluate the ways you believe reinventing yourself will change your attitude towards life. Not everything can be solved with a career change, or a move to the city of your dreams, but they can help set you on the path to truly finding your best ‘you.’
Write your plan down, it will make it seem more attainable and you are less likely to back away from it. If it is time for real changes they need to be bold enough that they motivate you to take small steps each day towards them.
It is safe to only rely on yourself, especially after being let down by others. Know that as humans, we need social interaction and it is never wrong to ask for help when needed. Truly account for those who have been there for you in your life, and know there is no shame is having a shoulder to lean on.
This should be a median where you are comfortable with your independence, but can swallow your pride to be dependent on the correct people.
Start With Your Self-Image
How do you see yourself? If it is in a negative light, you are not doing yourself any favors in creating a better outlook. You can think certain traits are detrimental, or even find habits you want to cut out, but do not think of yourself as unfixable. Break out of the comfort zone of self-hate, and actually find the qualities you want to change.
Even a simple wardrobe change can make you feel like a new person. Dress for the job you want, or the person you long to be. Browse Instagram Influencers and see how their style reflects what they stand for and make a bold decision. Many big brands on instagram have collections for both genders, or are moving towards it, like the popular Fashion Nova Men Collection.
Do Not Down-Play Your Strengths
It is hard to have an honest conversation with ourselves. While we usually can pinpoint each flaw in our person (inside and out), there are great traits mixed in that need recognized and grown upon. Close friends, and even work colleagues can enlighten you to these great personal qualities, if you are brave enough to ask.
Try online personality tests, or even career alignment quizzes to know what shines from your personality. This can translate to real changes in yourself, once you know not all qualities and choices you have made are unfavorable.
Find What Works Best
There is no perfect formula for what will make you feel better about yourself, or even set you on a path of real self-discovery. People react different to different methods, so always consider all of the ways one can reinvent themselves. Then, you can gauge what approaches will better effect your situation. Some long for a career change, while some simply want to change their viewpoint on their own person. Know what you want to change, then take real steps to change it. Just know that what has worked for Sally, very well may not work for Jim.
Keep A Steady Eye on Your Finances
One of the biggest problems encountered in reinventing yourself and reaching for goals is money troubles along the way. When you feel in control of your money and have a planned attack to your situation, it will ease much of the stress of a transition. If you’re attempting to get a new position, know there will be costs involved with training, or uniforms.
Use money to pay for therapy if you have just experienced a heavy loss, or even need to reconsider who you are after a divorce.
No dream is too big, but the course of action and motivation needs to make the full intent of the reinvention of yourself. If the goal is large, you must know the work ahead of you to reach it and not become discouraged if it takes long nights and years to achieve.
Know the real limits of your abilities, or even what your financial situation can handle. This is another time when honesty with yourself is important, so you do not become discouraged at an unattainable goal, or one that is not evolving fast enough.
Every Journey Gets Bumpy Sometimes
Never be afraid of failure. It is not how many times you fall, but how many times you stay down that depicts your life journey. If things do not go as planned, it is nothing to be ashamed of. You must examine the situation honestly to see where you went wrong, and not let fear keep you from future attempts.
With a solid plan, and fresh outlook, you can reinvent yourself into the person you never thought you could become. This is not an easy task, and the earlier you admit this, the more time you will have to manage your expectations. It is never to late for a fresh start, but it is entirely dependent on you, and your patience, whether the change is successful.