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How To Reduce The Pain Of Divorce

Divorce is never easy to process. However, there are ways to mitigate the pain. Lori Goldstein ESQ, owner of Law and Mediation office of Lori H. Goldstein, explains how to reduce the pain of divorce

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Divorce can be a painful experience for anyone to go through. Those who want to ease the pain should consider the following when at the end of their marital road.

Financial Records
Keep track of financial records and expenses. One of the most challenging parts of divorce is the separation of costs. Lines get blurred regarding joint expenses and how joint accounts have been handled. Try to clarify each party’s expenses, and list the items where there is overlap.

Talk To A Lawyer
It is helpful to consult with an attorney early in the process to get an idea of your rights and obligations. It will help you feel more in control. It also separates incorrect assumptions from actual reality. Discuss the different process options for accomplishing your divorce with your lawyer.

Remain Civil
Lashing out in anger is common in connection with divorce. This can be very draining and destabilizing, both when on the giving and receiving ends. Being aware of this can help. Make efforts to remain civil. It isn’t always easy, but couples deciding to end their marriage should look for ways to keep the peace as much as possible.

Looking Forward
Couples straddling the fence about whether to divorce can find themselves living in a painful purgatory. Once they have decided that divorce is inevitable, they must start looking forward-thinking about what process to engage in for their divorce, hiring a lawyer and thinking ahead to a life without their spouse. Rather than focusing on their pain, if possible, focus on a better life ahead.

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