Are you feeling stressed out without actually knowing why? I can see the stress all around me. In people hurrying in the streets, children worrying about their exams, or employees who are unhappy and overloaded at work. The stress is wherever you look.
We don’t have time for our hobbies, families, friends, and for ourselves. Keep doing things have become a norm by which we measure success. Yet no one seems to be any happier by being busier.
I’ve discovered that I feel stressed for only one reason — when I don’t do what I truly want to be doing and what I love. The feeling of wasting time drives me crazy and definitely adds more stress and pressure on me.
We feel stressed when we think that some situation or task is way above our capacities to handle them or when we’re “trapped” in situation or people we don’t want to be.
Stress can teach us very valuable lessons about what we really value and want. There can surely be some challenges while doing what we love but this is the healthy stress which returns to balance once the challenge is over. But if we spend our days doing what we feel like we should be doing, it leads to unhappiness, depression, and long-term stress.
An interesting fact is that the body naturally returns the stress levels back to normal. But, it is our mind that cannot find ease again and is feeling stressed out.
Stress is a condition of our minds.
Busyness and stress is a learnt habit when we’re in unwanted situations. It can be while talking to someone we fear and dislike or when we’re in a job that drains us. Therefore, we can use it as a valuable guide to show us what it is that we really value and what we would like to know or do instead.
If you feel stressed out at work, there is a high chance that you either don’t like the job or some specific project, situation, or principles of your company. You can either think about what you would like to do instead or what you could change at your company so you’d feel more at ease.
Getting clear on what stresses you is crucial step on the way to reduce stress.
Become very clear on what kinds of situations bring you stress and also why. Go deeper to discover what exactly it is that stresses you about your situation.
Let’s stay with the stress at work example.
Is it a particular project that stresses you? Do you feel like you lack a knowledge or expertise to do a good work so you’re stressed that others will find out your weaknesses?
Or do you feel stressed about some person? If so what kind of trait do you like the least about him or her? Maybe your boss is too chaotic and you’d like to have your work and project organized. Or he is too bossy and you’d like to create own boundaries.
Train yourself to listen the guidance that the stress has for you. It wants you to change something so you can create lifestyle that is more in accordance with your core values.
When we spend some time discovering why we feel stressed we can find out important information about what we can change. Or otherwise, our mind will continue sending warning signs about something we don’t pay attention to us.
Instead of avoiding stress, we can sit with it and ask what kinds of lessons there are for us to learn. In this way, we can slowly begin reducing the stress gradually and also make empowering changes in our lives.
Once you’re clearer on why you feel stressed it’s time to re-frame our perspective on stress. We want to rewire the mind so it values being in peace more than feeling stressed. The logical part of mind needs proofs and reason why to give up something. It’s like a baby who doesn’t like eating vegetable and we have to give her good enough reasons why vegetable is actually good and healthy.
So here you can find few very good reasons why stress doesn’t serve you in long-run to give new information to your logical mind which tends to sabotage us.
As stress is such a big topic for everyone, I’ve decided to run April’s free Monthly Challenge on stress. In the printable workbook which you receive if you’re signed up (if not you can do so here), you’ll get plenty of exercises which will help you understand why and when you’re stressed and also how you can change it.
If you know anyone who feels burdened with stress and could benefit from joining the Monthly Challenge with you, feel free to share this post.
Originally published at medium.com