How to Plan a Wedding (the Second Time Around)

planning a second wedding doesn't have to be as stressful and tiring as the first one.

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The euphoria that set in when your boyfriend popped the question and placed that ring on your finger probably didn’t last long when the thought of planning a wedding again struck your mind.

The truth is, planning a second wedding doesn’t have to be as stressful and tiring as the first one. In fact, the second time can truly be your dream wedding!

Read on to find out how you should plan this wedding.

A Few Things to Consider

Should you have a big wedding or a simple one? Are you bound to follow the rules and norms this time? What is acceptable for you to wear? Such questions may be buzzing in your mind right now.

Worry not, below are some ideas and pieces of advice to help you get started with planning your wedding:

Traditional or Unique?

Usually, your first wedding is where you follow the norms and traditions of your religion and culture. But who’s to say you can’t do something different now?

Maybe you’d want a close friend or relative to be the minister this time because guess what? You can do that! They can get ordained by a religious organization or become a temporary officiant for the day.

This way, your family and friends can become a more meaningful part of your wedding ceremony. On the other hand, you can skip parts such as walking down the aisle with your parents, tossing the bouquet, etc. Keeping it all casual allows you to celebrate your day the way YOU want to.

But if you want a wedding with the same style and traditions that were followed in your first one, there’s no rule saying you can’t do that (just don’t do everything exactly the way you did previously – this is a fresh start for you.)

A Destination Wedding, Perhaps?

It’s most likely that you’ve had your first wedding in your hometown. So you may want to try something different this time, like a destination wedding. Choose a romantic setting, like a beach in Hawaii while the sun sets, or maybe within the colorful patterned walls of Marrakech’s buildings.

This is especially a good idea if you have a small guest list, so only your close friends and family will have to fly here. Also, you can enjoy your honeymoon in the same country and save on plane tickets.

Deciding Your Attire

You may think that you’re supposed to keep things low-key just because it’s not your first wedding. But let’s be honest, it’s 2020, and we’re leaving those norms and values behind.

So, if you want to have that fairytale moment with a white gown again, go right up the aisle wearing just that. If you’re going for a unique look, you can wear just about any color that pleases you.

It could be a flowy gown with a wedding band or a cocktail dress; the choice is entirely up to you. For the groom, a tuxedo or a more casual attire is perfectly fine, depending on the type of wedding you’re having.

Making the Guest List

You don’t necessarily have to have a huge guest list for your second wedding with all your far off relatives and friends in it. You can share this day with only a few friends and family members and have a small, close-knit, and peaceful wedding.

However, the matter of inviting any exes can be a bit tricky. Typically, though, you’d want to invite the father or mother of your child(ren) if you’re on good terms with him or her. If you don’t have any children with your ex, it’s completely up to you to invite them or not.

Having Pre-Wedding Parties

You may want to hold back on the pre-wedding parties with your second wedding. Your friends may not want to throw you a bridal shower or bachelor/bachelorette party again.

So, we’d advise you to go with what you feel like your friends and family want. If they’re hinting at throwing you a bridal shower or bachelor/bachelorette party again, good for you. But if they don’t seem too enthusiastic about it, don’t push it.

Getting Children Involved

If you or your partner have any children, you may want to involve them in the ceremony. It’s a good way to start a new family together.

Have them become bridesmaids, flower girls, junior groomsmen, or ring bearers. However, this does not obligate you to invite children to your wedding. You can mention this in your invitations.

Gifts – Accept but Don’t Expect

For your second wedding, you may want to make bringing gifts optional for your guests. Some people may not feel like bringing you gifts again since they already did that in your first wedding. So, don’t expect them from everyone.

However, it’s likely that you’re inviting new people to your second wedding who weren’t a part of your first one and they may want to bring you gifts as a warm gesture. So, it’s best to mention gifts as an optional thing to do on your invitations. 


You must have a little idea by now about a few basics of planning your second wedding. Remember, it’s your special day, and it’s your second chance at having a fresh start with someone. So you don’t have to worry about any norms and traditions this time.

Apart from following a couple of etiquettes, you’re free to have whatever sort of wedding you want.

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