Believe In Yourself

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Did you know that low self-esteem is the most dangerous aspect of human life? Your esteem results on your value. The higher your esteem, the more valuable you are.

The world today has really changed. People you used to trust are becoming your number one enemies. It is until you realize who you are, what you want and where you want to be that you will be safe.

Your success and ability is not based on people’s opinion. On the contrary, you set pace and let the others follow. Most importantly is to leave a mark for those who never believed in you.

It is until you decide to crawl that you will eventually make baby steps and then walk. Gradually you will be able to fight the noises around you. Put the spirit of being positive at work and you will have a more accelerated self esteem.

Here are the tips to boost the inner you and bring out the giant in you;

1. Be yourself

In life you cannot satisfy all the people all time. Master the art of being real and you will be able to show to the world what you are. Do what pleases you, what you love and what you are passionate about,

Talk about the topics you are conversant with. Let the surrounding fell your presence. The giant in you will be able to convince anyone doubting you otherwise.

Never allow any form of intimidation makes you inferior. In everything you do, be sure of the steps you are to take. In short, be real don’t fake it.

2. Stop being a full time ‘YES’ person

There are a group of people who always like to use you. If there is work to be shared and you are busy let them know. Don’t get overworked in an aim to make each individual happy. You will have more reasons to hate yourself.

Learn where your limits are and let it be respected. The do’s and don’ts of your life should be known. Put a limit to the extent people may have access to your life. Saying a ‘YES’ you don’t mean will result to you feeling so inferior.

3. Listen to other peoples opinion

In every discussion, you tend to look for solutions. Not all the times you are right. Allow other peoples opinion counts.

Let the forum you are in be open. Your idea may not always be welcome. Thus, don’t over expect since at the end you will feel rejected.

4. Avoid pettiness

Sleeping on the road for a person who is looking for you is dangerous. When the step on you, who will you blame? Don’t start a fight you cannot win. Let there be a difference between you and an individual who have lost track.

Sometimes it is hard to keep up with challenges. You might be looking for peace but the other person wants to distract you. Ensure you are firm enough not to fall in that pit. Make worth decisions and avoid small fights

5. Create a journal.

Writing in itself is a therapy. Write everything you feel, you want and how to overcome it. Whatever comes in to your mind put it down on a paper. Pour your feelings out as you write and you will feel relieved.

Whenever you fell down and weak ensure you put it up together. With time you will find yourself making bigger steps in gaining self worth than you could think. At sometime read what you have been writing. You will realize how strong you are.

6. Know your friends

Have you noticed there is this friend of yours who will be negative all the way? Don’t get associated with such people. Anything you say will be met with an overview of how bad it is.

Keep either one friend or two who understands where you are coming from. A major cause of low self esteem is the circles of friends around you. The more the circle the more difficult it will be to heal. If your friends are not directing you to the healing path, better avoid them.

7. Avoid what makes you feel unworthy

If you know going to the shopping mall will always leave you sad, don’t go. Keep off all the instances that will leave you worse than you already feel. Take notice of what leaves you better and do it regularly.

Keep in mind that to heal there should be a willing patient. Thus, it is good to observe your routines and take necessary measures. Accept the change that comes your way and embrace it.

8. Do what makes you good

You will never go wrong doing what pleases you. What you love you do it passionately and give it your all. At the end you feel satisfaction and victorious.

Never force yourself to take up chores you hate. You will end up hating yourself and others. It doesn’t mean you avoid everything because you don’t like it either. If need be squeeze yourself and give it the best footing. In short, love what you do.

9. Be positive

Positive thinking is a friend of progress. Thinking in terms of you can and not you will try. You get to trust yourself in every area you are allocated to.

It is point where you know the worst can happen but you believe you will manage. A height where you are elevated to and feel you will still hold on. That’s who you are.

In addition, never allow people put you in their mess. Immerse people in your peace. Let those who are for you become closer. And never force yourself to fit in. If no one appreciates your efforts, pat your back and remind yourself you are awesome. Always remember you are the best expert.

Enjoy the progress you are making daily. Live a full life and don’t mind about what others think about you. Start this mission with, “Things are just getting better.”

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